He is just gross but smart and he asked me out. i need to know what sould i do!!! he is really nice but i do not want to be caught with a nerd.what would you do?sould i go out with him?would you?HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-18 12:37:27 · 46 answers · asked by 2hot4u101 1 in News & Events ➔ Other - News & Events
Go out with him just once to see who he really is. Don't categorize people; it just makes the whole HS society worse than it really is.
2006-10-18 12:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by chrstnwrtr 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
You sound far too young to be worrying about dating. Looks and status (at school no less!) are superficial and hardy represent the entire person. You say the whole school thinks he is a nerd, and you don't sound much different.
If you truly think he is "nice," then perhaps you should get to know him as a friend. I'm assuming you are young (12? 13?). I have found that the smart "nerdy" boys often turn out to be the most fun, interesting and respectful guys when they are older. Sometimes it just takes time to be comfortable with yourself, and to have the confidence to show everyone. This is true for both him and you. Right now it's pretty clear you don't want to date him, but do him a favor and let him down easily. It takes a lot of courage to ask someone out, and I'm sure he is terrified of being rejected. Tell him you're flattered, but that you are not interested in dating anyone right now or another excuse that will not make him feel awful. And do yourself a favor and realize that there is more to a person than what you see and what you hear from gossip. Don't write this boy off, or you may regret it later.
Good luck with whatever choice you make. And keep in mind all those "nerds" who have become super-sucessful in later life (not that should influence you decision now, but keep in mind you may be working for him later!).
2006-10-18 13:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut the girl some slack. She's probably really young and being seen with a nerd is a big deal at that age. Ummm, if you are of age though and you're still asking this question - then yeah you are a *****.
However - this is a life lesson many people go through.
If you like him, you should go out with him. Yes, your friends will razz you but if they're your friends they'll let it go and not make fun of you after a bit. You could end up being very happy with him.
It's more important how the guy treats you and how he makes you feel. What's better? A nerd that is super sweet and makes you smile or a hottie that treats you like crap and puts you down?
If you don't like the guy at all - you did call him gross - just let him know you're not interested but thank him! It's nice to know that someone out there likes you and it takes a lot of courage to ask somebody out - especially when they know they are the nerd and have the chips stacked against them. This guy has some gonads so give him props! Be nice!
Do NOT go out with him only because you don't want to tell him no or you pity him. You'll only be leading him on, and that's not nice. Second of all, if you're already grossed out and embarassed at the thought of it then defintely say no. You'll probably end up treating him like crap, intentionally or not, and it'll make a fool out of him and you.
Put yourself in his situation. Treat him how you would want to be treated if you were in his place.
It's okay to want to go out with him and it's okay to not want to go out with him. It's how you treat him that makes you a good person.
2006-10-18 12:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by betsymaemae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you do not know that Nerds rule the world and the preppy popular jocks are living out of trash can dumpsters for food and robbing convienience stores with unloaded firearms while nerds are the Actors and billionaires of the world
Seriously hun Looks fade but brains last forever give the guy a shot
2006-10-18 13:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by Pale Rider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
realize that one day the nerds and geeks will rule your world much like Bill Gates does today. What should matter to you is whats on the inside, not what others think of the outside.
I never have understood why some young ladies dont want to get caught with a nerd. Bless your heart. You will learn what truly matters soon enough.
2006-10-18 12:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by corey_emily_siara_mikey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't do all that shallow stuff. Once you get older you'll start to realize it. I was once a huge nerd and when I got to college, my looks started to change and all of a sudden I became rather attractive. The girls that I liked in high school are all rather unattractive now. Also, who cares what other people think? That nerd might make a lot of money one day when he goes to a top-notch university. Then who'll be laughing?
2006-10-18 12:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by Christopher45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could show how shallow and insecure you are by turning him down because he's a "nerd". You'd probably be doing him a favor anyway. Why would any young man want to date an immature little girl who is more concerned with being seen with the right people instead of getting to know someone for who they are?
2006-10-18 12:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by vwhobo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him as a person, you should. The day after graduation none of that high school stuff matters and the nerds usually end up with better jobs. If that doesn't matter, its just a date, not an engagement. You can always leave early.
2006-10-18 12:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by philroco 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you spend forever, caring about what people think, you'll never be happy. people don't care about your happiness ,just the fact that some one isn't as cute as they could be. if you go out with a guy just for there looks, you will never find a good guy that's going to treat you well, and that's what you should want. not a guy who's cute but is a jerk go with how you feel, don't let other people make your decision. give the guy a chance and if you really don't want to, just find a nice way to tell him his not really your type
2006-10-18 12:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Respect him. Either tell him yes or no and then follow through with your decision.
I think you should go out with him. He's probably the nicest guy you'll ever meet and probably the most intelligent too. You can learn something from every single person you ever meet in life.
And farther down the road you may run into him again and you may need his help for something sometime.'
2006-10-18 12:47:41 · answer #10 · answered by Bluealt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is appearances to other people. If nobody else likes him, don't even give him a chance. Just say no! And make sure to do it in front of lots of people so he never gets the nerve to rise above his station in life ever again!! How dare he!!
*rolls eyes*
2006-10-18 12:46:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋