We are getting married, and we have a nice place. We don't want gifts, we want cash. Proper ediquite?

Question

How do you phrase it on the invitations that you don't want gifts?

Answer 1

http://www.topweddingsites.com/wedding_etiquette.html

According this site: You should ask for cash gifts by word of mouth or a wedding website. Never mention gifts on your invitations. I like the In Lieu of gifts.. above but do it on a website or with save the dates not on an invite.

Answer 2

Tell them that gifts aren't necessary. You can't dictate what kind of gift you want. There is no way to ask for money on invitations without sounding like tacky, greedy, lazy pigs. You can register for what you would like, but I don't think banks take registries. Try getting a second job or putting of the wedding if you need cash that badly. If you are already living together or if it's a second marriage for both, expecting any gifts at all would be greedy. You already have a household set up.

Answer 3

Gifts are not mentioned on the invitation.

I'm also in this situation, and all you can do is let anyone who asks what you would like know that you already have all the towels/ china/ toasters that you can possibly use. Gifts are what a giver chooses to give you, not an entitlement. Most people are smart enough to figure out that you could use some cash, but they may also choose to give you something that they think you would like.

Answer 4

There's no proper etiquette to asking for cash only/no gifts. No matter how you word it, it will sound tacky. Just accept what ever gifts you get graciously, or return them. Most of the time people give cash anyway.

P.S. If you say on the invitation "Please, no gifts", they may take it too literally and not give anything. No gift no cash. You're better off just letting the guests decide what to give you. At our wedding, we only got a handful of gifts the rest was money.

Answer 5

It is never socially acceptable to ask for money. The best thing to do is register for a very small amount of gifts; the rest of the invitees will be forced to give you money. Also, have your Maid of Honor and Best Man spread the word that monetary gifts would be appreciated. DO NOT, put anything about cash on your shower invitation, nor anything else! Good luck to you.

Answer 6

When I got married I asked for cash instead of gifts. I got $25 to $50 dollars. I was 30 when I got married.

Answer 7

To outright ask for cash is TACKY and disgusting -- and that is NOT a good idea to put on the invitations.

If you already have a place to live, and the things you need to set up a household, then you could mention (outside of the invitation) to your invited guests that you want any gifts designed to go to specific CHARITIES or DONATIONS -- and that is fine.

Answer 8

I dont think there is a "proper" way. If you have everything you need I dont see why you would even ask for cash that seems tacky to me. I'm not sure there is a way you could go about it without being insulting. Gifts give people options and a price range they can afford while being inconspicuous so I honestly dont see how people wouldn't get insulted.

Answer 9

Wedding invitation cards do not mention gifts at all. Maybe you can let it out to some close friends and ask them to spread the word.

Answer 10

In Asian customs it is perfectly alright to request money. The proper wording on the invitation is:

The bride and groom request monetary gifts only.

That doesn't mean that someone won't buy you a gift though, so be prepared to also have a person responsible to collect them should they bring them to the wedding.