I have been married for almost 8 years and thing are great but sometimes i find myself remembering how i felt in the begginning of our relationship. I wish I could feel that again, I know we love each other and all but does it happen to other people or Am I just weird? What do you do about it?
2006-10-18 12:32:20 · 21 answers · asked by xadralix 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ohhhhh, I remember!! Being so excited to see them, waking each morning and getting ready just for them, making plans for the future consisting of only you and them. I miss it too. It's not romance, its discovering a person and figuring out why you love them. It's so depressing to know so much about them, and nothing is left to the imagination. If you find a cure let me know too. We are in the same boat
2006-10-18 12:50:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for about 3 1/2 years and miss that warm fuzzy feeling...it is a combination of excitement, concern, and hormones. Man is that the greatest feeling ever!
However, that feeling quickly wears off because it is unsustainable. There have been a number of studies on whether or not monogamy is or is not possible. What they have found is that most mammals, including humans are not meant to be monogamous. As a matter of fact, most primates (our distant cousins) only stay with a mate for a couple of years.
Now that does not mean that it is impossible to be in a committed relationship. You just have to be aware of the draw backs like the fact that the intoxicating "in love" feeling is not part of the equation. However, there are huge up sides to being married. For instance, it is comforting to know you have someone that wants to be with you despite the fact the initial attraction is long gone.
2006-10-18 13:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by jules_xcess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for a little over a year and I do miss falling in love. Some people say when you're married, you can fall in love all over again with your spouse. I'm not sure how that's possible though.
2006-10-18 13:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by globalsoule 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question because I think answers come from people who are in different places in their relationships...I've been married for 8 years and my husband and I have our fair share of ups and downs. I don't miss the 'falling in love' feeling because I still have those feelings for him but stronger. I still get excited to see him when he walks in a room. I still feel light headed when I see him naked...he's hotter to me know then he was when we first met. I miss him every second we're apart...he's my heart and soul and truly my best friend. I think you get what you give...so if you miss 'falling in love' maybe you should act the way you did when you first met. Make time to have a picnic in the livingroom with candles after the kids go to bed. Slow dance in the kitchen when your cooking dinner. Put some sexy lingerie on under you house clothes and surprise him when it's time for bed. Spice it up a little and add some excitement. When you put in some extra effort you may be surprised what you get in return...good luck!
2006-10-18 13:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not Weird your just settled Look at it like your eating cake remember when you were young and you were given chocolate cake Oh man it was so fine you drooled at the piece on your plate well Now your older and have had that cake a hundred times yes you still love it but you don't drool over it any more . and you can still remember how you loved it as a child and what it meant to see it there waiting for you and that is what you yearn for. Well the comparison is a bit weak but I think you get my drift .
My wife and I play a little game every now and then its a bit strange to some but its harmless and we get a kick out of it
We arrive separately at a restaurant and I walk up to her and ask her if she would like a drink she says no thanks and says she is meeting her husband ,I apologies and sit not to far away after a while I pass by and say to her looks like you are still alone are you sure I cant keep you company for a while she smiles and accepts . You should see the faces about us .
After a while I tell her I am staying across the street at the motel and if she wants she can wait there we go to the room I have already booked ahead of time and we go at it as strangers It is exciting and fun After 20 years of marriage it is a spice in the pudding .
2006-10-18 12:54:06 · answer #5 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all. i have been married for 15 years. i still get excited every day at 3:00 because i know hubby is on his way home. i promise there is more energy in a kiss today then there was the first time. of course every day is not a honeymoon. there is kids , grand brats. bills, a home to keep up all the things that comes with marriage. but that's what makes marriage exciting, im still surprised when he comes home and says i got you some thing today. i no longer have to wonder is this the one. life is not only good we are both better people because of the other one.
2016-03-18 21:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Granted i have been married for a whole 10 months but I have been with my honey for 6 years. I dont miss falling in love because it just keeps happening over and over again. He may do something thats just normal and I fall all over again. When I think that maybe our lives could have gone another way I get all jealous and the next time I see him its like i am 16 again and I fell for my babe. Dont try to remember the past like that. Its not a memory or place in time its an emotion. You could think about the past and suddenly regret something but at that time you felt wonderful. Just look at your spouse and think about the wonderful things that keep you in love.
2006-10-18 14:26:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't miss it at all. After my divorce, I didn't think love was possible again, and didn't want the headaches and worry about "Will he call??" and getting giddy. However, by total accident I met my now-husband, fell in love, and now we're still happily married and IN love.
We still have silly funny habits that I won't go into, and it really keeps the marriage alive. We promised each other the spark would never go out.
2006-10-18 13:46:55 · answer #8 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noooooooo! You're neither weird nor strange for feeling or thinking that way. In-fact, married-couples "re-marry" all the time just to re-experience that "loving-feeling" all over again . You do whatever it takes to keep "that loving-feeling"alive & well !
For you & your hubby, perhaps what is needed is just an re-enactment of most those things yous did and experienced when you first really discovered you love for each other ?
Here's wishing you both the very best in your in yor lasting-marriage !
2006-10-18 12:55:09 · answer #9 · answered by anthony J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for the most part I don't miss it; to me, the joy of being with my husband is a ton better than even the "newly in love" feeling. I do think back sometimes to when I would literally be "high" on love, but I realize that there would be no way to sustain such a feeling for a long time. While being "high" was great, in the long run I much perfer stability.
2006-10-18 12:44:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋