I have had a couple of bad experiences with some past girlfriends and since then i tend to be very strict with the way i handle my relationships i do not believe that a cheater deserves to be forgiven, i think cheating itself is simply an act of selfishness and disrespect and those who do it are not worthy of second chances whoever i often wonder if that's always the case, experience has taught me that cheaters don't change but i have been in situations where i had to put some consideration before making my decision, thus i wonder is it ever okay to forgive a cheater?
2006-10-18 12:03:33 · 4 answers · asked by ericktravel 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I agree with your feeling on cheaters, but I think that once you are removed from the relationship and have had a chace to heal it would be ok to forgive. This way you can let go of the hate and hurt allowing you to get on with your life in peace. Carrying those feelings into the next relationship is not fair to yourself or to them.
2006-10-18 12:12:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there are possibly situations where you could forgive a cheater.
If you honestly believe it was a mistake/will never happen again (only you can decide), then I think if the person is still worth it that you shoudl forgive them. Personally, for me it would depend on how I found out about it. If she did it and told me about it, I would be VERY likely to forgive her, provided she is willign to work towards re-building the trust and relationship. If i hear about it form other sources and confront her about it and she wont tell the truth or I have to beat it out of her (not physically, but persuasively), then the lies on top of the cheating are very hard to forgive for me.
2006-10-18 12:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by dontdoit! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this question actually hit's home for me. I have been cheated on alot..and this past time..which was this summer, hurt worse then anything i have ever felt. The guy was the best thing that i thought would ever happen to me...and in the end..he was probably the worst. I loved him and he cheated on me with a bi girl.
In my opinion, they never..EVER deserve a second chance. They take your trust for granted and then shoot you down like your nothing to them. People like that don't change. Trust is the base of a true relationship and by cheating, they destroy any trust...trust that you will never get back..at least, for that person.
2006-10-18 12:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by Katie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel strongly about something than it not wrong. I feel that if you cheat then you do not love person to begin with. I have learn from past experiences that if you going to cheat on someone it is best you leave. People that are married and cheat on spouses it wrong because it not worth it. If you want to cheat get separated or divorce. Cheating is wrong and no excuse.
2006-10-18 12:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Disha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋