I have very low self confidence, i think my friends are holding me back from talking and hanging out with other people. Besides my low self confidence, i also am extremely shy when it comes talking to girls, as much as i want to talk to them and as much as they attempt to talk to me i just can't carry on a conversation. im only 15. is there any way i could get my self confidence up and learn how to not be shy when talking to girls?
2006-10-18 11:51:01 · 8 answers · asked by cashfan28 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I used to be the same way, you just have to tell yourself enough is enough. A girl is a girl, not some goddess. Your problem is that you're putting girls on the pedestal where they're all high and mighty (i.e. 40 virgin). Realize they're human just like you, watch the same movies, play same sports, share similar interest. Once you break the ice, its smooth sailing. I'm telling you to just walk up to girl and talk, like you or not, your confidence will receive a boost. Try to maintain eye contact when talking and everything will be fine. Trust me, there's nothing to be afraid of. Almost forgot, if your friends are holding you back, tell them how you feel or just get rid of them. You have to try to reach your goals
2006-10-18 12:00:01 · answer #1 · answered by Allen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend, looking at your question reminds me of a phase i went thru..I think the loss of your selfconfidence might be because of some failure in life which is hitting you hard in your mind. If something you tried to do in your life and have failed,then its not your fault, it was simply not destined for you.
Destiny and Effort is in a cycle, dude..No matter how hard you try if its not destined you will not get, but if it is in your destiny then try hard and you will get it..
Talk to yourself first, ask yourself a question would you make a friend with someone like you? The answer will come as NO! First thing first, believe in yourself, what you do and what you say. As for friends, try to find out why are they holding you back, ask openly and be open to any answer you get, then change yourself so tht you fit in the group, that does not mean you start smoking only because they all are...you get me!! If they still sucks, re-invent yourself and look for new friends.
As for GIRLS!!!! There was a time when I would cross the road if I see a girl coming down my path...and today girls simply enjoy my company. I have more female friends then males. Dude! don't look at girls as a person of opposite sex, don't look at her body, look into their eyes...treat them as a simple human being. Talk to them as if you are talking to any male members.
To cut long story short...BELIEVE IN YOURSELF and THE WORLD WILL BELIEVE IN YOU....
2006-10-18 12:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by cybernik 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do something that will make you work hard and feel good about yourself. I used to work with teens with low self-esteem and I always suggested they do some volunteer work in a field that they're interested in. The rewards those kids got were more than any financial or academic award they ever achieved. You will feel like a million bucks and it will start the building of the esteem you so seek.
2006-10-18 11:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by EJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
vanity if something, boosts self esteem. self esteem is you capacity and braveness interior your self to approach on a daily basis situation which may be seen out of the traditional run-of-the-mill, mutually with: drawing close a stranger, a clean activity or soliciting for a telephone form. the place as vanity is greater-so the type you sense approximately your self and how optimistic you're approximately your skills besides as the type you detect your barriers. somebody with low self-worth would be much less probable to anticipate they are able to do something with the aid of questioning they can't. somebody questioning 'could desire to I approach that boss approximately something' could react in the two way in the event that they have severe or low self-worth, drawing close them in the event that they have severe vanity questioning they are able to or low vanity the place they don't questioning they are able to't do it.
2016-11-23 18:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by frandsen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realizing that they are probably struggling just like you.....they are probably wanting you to make the first move. Hey...when a girl likes a guy ..the guy really can't do anything wrong so go get 'em and don't be shy!
2006-10-18 12:04:30 · answer #5 · answered by sugarbud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Positive attitude. That's what you need. Go to http://positiveattitude.hammocksurvivalguide.com/ and read some of the articles.
Not sure if it's what you mean but it might help :)
2006-10-19 02:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join clubs around your school, meet new people!!
2006-10-18 11:52:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stare at yourself in the mirror until you start to look good
2006-10-18 11:52:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋