She told him that I had changed my AOL screen name and email address. When she was really talking to him. She lied to him about traveling to see me when she was with him. She also told him that some of the messages he saw where the two of us roll playing because I was seeing a married man. This was the point where he called me and asked about the situation. I was totally floored over her lies and really hurt that she would put me in this situation. I did tell him that none of it was true and told her I didn't want to speak to her until she can be honest with herself and stop all the lies. Did I do the right thing?
2006-10-18 11:47:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You bet you did. You have nothing to feel guilty about. If she were much of a friend she would not have put you in the middle of her marital problems and cheating. She should be coming to you on her hands and knees begging forgiveness. Sorry you had to go through all of it.
2006-10-18 11:51:04 · answer #1 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes you did.
Regardless of wether or not you think the actual affiar is wrong or not, she brought you into a serious matter with out your consent. You did the right thing, and I hope her husband throws her out on her ***. Second chances between husband and wife are for ignorant people with low self-esteem.
But then again you know her better than anyone who is going to answer this question. It is up to you wether you disgard her as a friend or make her appualigze and comfort her. Betweem guys this is a entirely different matter, but with woman it is as if she betrayed you too, probabley best to let her go, let her maybe finally grow up and learn not to use people as her pawns. Then again people almost never change.
The first time she got caught she probabley jsut blurted out the idea of you being the cover, and once hse had it became an easier way to deal with her lies.
Of course there are a huge amount of variables in this problem, such as; did her husband abuse/neglect/cheat on her. She should have told you to see if you were comforable doing it, and most likely her husband was your freind too, not your BFF, but a freind none the less making you feel as if you betrayed a friend for a freind which is never a pretty situation.
2006-10-18 11:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-10-18 11:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by Richie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did the right thing! I can't believe she used you like that and didn't even tell you. I bet you were caught off guard when her husband called. He has a right to know the truth too!
Good going!!
2006-10-18 11:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by Lady J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOW
Yes you did a real friend would not use you like that and put you in that situation and if she doesn't talk to you ever again well that is her loss for taking advantange of you and your friendship
2006-10-18 11:50:13 · answer #5 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did the right thing. She isn't much of a friend is she? Now you know.
2006-10-18 11:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes...she makes her name clean, and puts you in a bad situation...so you are totally right...thats not what friends does.
2006-10-18 11:51:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
been there...my so called best friend did something similar to me...only there was no internet involved.she'd say she was going to my house,and go elsewhere...it really pi**ed me off...i didn't say anything to her old man..soon enough,they self destructed,and it caught up with her...now she has nowhere to live...and runnin to me for advice.....if you felt like you did the right thing,in your heart..then ya did...
2006-10-18 11:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by curious1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course you did.
2006-10-18 11:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by Phil S 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
absolutely. He deserves to know. She deserves to lose him.
2006-10-18 11:50:47 · answer #10 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋