Boyfriend gets jealous as he's 15 years older than me. He says he thinks that when people look at us they wonder why I am with him as I'm younger and very attractive.
2006-10-18 11:37:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am 29 and look alot younger, he is 44 and looks his age. I love him because he is extremely intelligent and I have never met anyone who matches my intelligence. He says only those who know him and how smart is, would know why I was dating him
2006-10-18 11:46:21 · update #1
I am 29(look alot younger) and he is 44 and looks his age. He thinks people wonder why I am with him as I can have any man I want (his words).
2006-10-18 11:52:24 · update #2
Yes, they can be but it sounds like your boyfriend feels as though he doesn't deserve u. He doesn't realize that his fear is stemming from his own insecurity and he thinks everyone is thinking ill of him.
Just remember to make him feel as secured as possible and don't use his fear as a weapon against him.
2006-10-18 11:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's human nature to have some jealousy, but extreme jealousy can cause problems. So, if your older guy has issues about why you are with him then ask him to be open with you. Getting these things said and resolved should help smooth his tension of possibly loosing you to a younger guy (which is what his insecurity) at some point. Let him know that if you'd wanted younger, you wouldn't be with him & he's what you want as a mature partner, (so stop acting like a younger kid).
2006-10-18 11:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a good question. Usually age doesn't mean much but 15 years older? What is it you actually see in him? If you have strong points then let him know those things.
2006-10-18 11:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by vancie121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure they do wonder! Jealousy is only a sign of insecurity. Let them look! Tell him how lucky he is to have such an attractive, younger woman! I'm sure his male counterparts are envious! Just curious...why are you attracted to such an older man?
2006-10-18 11:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not jealous but a bit afraid that since he is old that you might prefer a younger guy. He is just thinking that he is not up to your standard. Tell him that you love him whatever he is and it might help him.
Hope he feels happy and you too
2006-10-18 11:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you 15 years is a really big age difference? maybe his jealousy is a sign that this relationship might not work.
2006-10-18 11:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him he's wasting good together time worrying about a problem that doesn't exist!!!he's smart & should know that if you didnt want to b with him u wouldnt.....but to enjoy what we have & are working towards & stop being jealous about something that isnt there....is that useing your intellegence to its full potentiial? enjoy the looks....know that its your bed shes in......not theirs! thats what i say when someone checks out who im with.......i love that i have what they want! i have her mind, heart soul.body.....they can only imagine........need i say more!
2006-10-18 12:12:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy mean love
2006-10-18 11:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by Sami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes guys wonder this why wouldn't he, you have guys your age and younger looking at you
2006-10-18 11:40:15 · answer #9 · answered by charmz21lucky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋