to make a long story short, I was having an affair with an ex, Iam married with 2 little ones. It all blew up in my face. the ex was threatning he was gonna tell my hubby, I broke down told my husban, he forgave me, but I don't know how I started talking to the ex again but the ex said he was never really gonna tell my hubby he was just threatning, now he says it can just be our lil seceret, but he thinks he has to talk to me everyday, how do I get rid of him completey?????
2006-10-18 11:34:42 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talk to your husband. Tell him this jerk is still bothering you. Ask for your husband's help. Set your limits and do not relent. If you wish to keep your present marriage, do not (I repeat, do not) keep talking with your ex-. Can anyone be any plainer than that? Get with it, Girl! Either you are with your husband or you are not. What do you want: your ex- and your husband to fight it out for you? Criminy! You have two kids. Start actiing like an adult, at least for their sakes.
2006-10-18 11:39:44 · answer #1 · answered by NeoArt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought the affair was over?
to make a long story short, I was having an affair with an ex, I am married with 2 little ones. It all blew up in my face. the ex was threatening he was gonna tell my hubby, I broke down told my husband, he forgave me, but I don't know how I started talking to the ex again but the ex said he was never really gonna tell my hubby he was just threatening, now he says it can just be our our secret, but he thinks he has to talk to me everyday, how do I get rid of him completely?????
2006-10-18 18:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell your husband he has contacted you again so he is in the loop. Then tell your ex lover that he needs to stop calling you and you can't talk to him again.. That is if you want to save your marriage??? You are taking a big chance doing this all over again. Your husband forgave you once he won't do it again. You also have two children involved. Start thinking about everyone involved not only yourself. Honesty is going to be the best solution for you. Also, ask yourself what are you missing in your current marriage that you need to talk to this ex of yours??? Good luck..
2006-10-18 18:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your hubby was forgiving and all is well maybe you could just ask for his help? Tell him how important it is to you to keep the lines of communication open with him from now on and that you pray he knows fully that you have broken this cycle completely but your ex is willfully trying to keep it up conversations with you and you just don't know what to do, and basically beg for his help. Tell him you know it is wrong and you don't want in any way to go even partially down that path again because of your commitment to your marriage and your love for your hubby. I think it is important for you, your mental state, your relationship with your husband and your future communication with him as well. Prayers =)
2006-10-18 18:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem as well my ex is very well endowed compared to my current. I was with him since I was 14 got married had kids and when he would come over to visit I couldnt help but notice it and we had sex for about 7yrs all the time finally my ex and I had a real talk about why this was happpening . It was just that we are very compatable sexualy but I didnt love him and he loved his wife and we just stopped
2006-10-18 18:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by renee d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your your ex to quit stalking you. Tell your husband you need him to protect you for your ex. Have your telephone number changed so your ex can no longer call you. If he persists in trying to pursue a relationship with you, get a restraining order against him. He is a threat to you and your family. Treat him as such.
PS It sounds like your husband is a good man. One who is willing to forgive an affair is one worth keeping.
2006-10-18 18:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by GrandmaamylovesJesus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hub won't forgive so easily the second time. Tell ex that it's against the law to stalk a woman who doesn't want him around. Convince him that you and hubby will go to the police if ex doesn't leave you alone. Hub would rally to your side if you just explained to him that you've broken it off with ex and now ex won't leave you alone.
2006-10-18 18:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by David W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thign you can really do is ignore him- stop talking to him- if your husband was good enough to forgive you, don't make him lok like a fool by doing it again- Just ignore him and tell your husband that he wont leave you alone- maybe he can help and maybe that will make the other guy go-
Good luck
2006-10-18 18:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by Katie W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your wrong! You didn't just cheat on your husband, you cheated on your children. You cheated them out of a good home life. You promised to be faithful to your husband in front of god, and you broke that promise. Your husband is fulfilling his promise by sticking with you through the good and the bad times.Do the right thing and tell the other guy to stay out of your life. If you can't do that than let your husband go.
2006-10-18 18:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by shay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Compromise yourself. Tell your husband that part and ask your husband to be your guardian on that. You need to get away from that man or u ll ruin ur marrage. unless you dont care for ur hubby and marriage. Think of the consequences
2006-10-18 18:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by pickemeeeeeeeeeeee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋