and you don't return his feelings, but think of him as a brother/friend and are totally freaked out. i've told him a couple times to stop calling me and that me's making me uncomfortable. i've also at various times thought this was one of his infamous elaborate jokes (its not). i really do not know what to do here. i do not want to lose my best friend, but her hubby is putting me in such a spot that i feel like i might be forced to tell her what's going on... i do not want to hurt her
2006-10-18 11:32:02 · 16 answers · asked by ally 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I agree with other posts here. Make sure you have evidence. However, I would suggest getting a private detective to help you so that it isn't only you going to your best friend with a tape in hand. This leaves you wide open for the husband to say you made it up or for the best friend to think you are trying to break up her marriage. If there is a disinterested person involved such as a private detective then you will have proof from a professional that is indisputable. This proof could be used to also protect you by allowing you to get a restraining order against him and it could help your best friend in any further litigation against her husband in divorce procedings.
She is not going to be happy so make sure you are protected no matter what.
2006-10-18 11:39:23 · answer #1 · answered by r_k_winters 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-08 17:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by fearson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don' t see that you have a lot of choice if the clod doesn't stop what he is doing. Anyway, if you were any kind of friend you would tell her the truth. Whether she believes it or not is up to her. If it were me, I would be more hurt that you weren't honest with me, and straightforward. Honesty is almost always the best policy when it comes to stuff like this. If you have repeatedly told him you do not appreciate his advances and he won't stop, tell your friend. Maybe she can get the idiot to listen to reason. I hope it works out okay
2006-10-18 11:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time 2 record the calls.
u need them 2 protect urself.
u've asked him 2 stop and he's still not listening.
u may have no choice but say something 2 ur friend but offer him 1 more chance 2 stop this 1 sided behaviour.
it would make me really really uncomfortable 2, if he values ur friendship ask him 2 stop and think.
silly man's not doing himself, his wife or u any favours.
good luck, hope he sees sense.
2006-10-18 11:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he calls you and tells you about a dream he had about you, say something like "Interesting" and change the subject.
But if your friend's husband is doing that, she should know about it.
2006-10-18 11:54:04 · answer #5 · answered by charlie♫ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I would just tell him
You respect your friend a lot and
You would never do anything to hurt her
Tell him- He should be thinking and dreaming of his wife ,
not you.He probably thinks of you when he's awake
and it carries over to his dreams.
bed parteners are easy to find
True friends are not.
Tell him if this does not stop
You might be forced to tell your friend.
That should end it.
Hold on to your friend,
2006-10-18 11:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by eviechatter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him u only want to be friends and thats it it cant go ne further it would ruin all of yalls relationship and if he got mad at u for something he might let it slip to get even so ur best not to get involved with him besides a distant friendship
2006-10-18 11:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by kim s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sorry but the truth hurts! Tell your friend that your boyfriend, (Name) is calling you and telling you that he is having 'dreams' about you. She will be happy if you be honest with her. Or you can phone her and tell her and be HONEST! That counts in a realtionship/friendship!!
2006-10-18 11:37:01 · answer #8 · answered by Hottie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've already lost her because of his actions. But if you tell her without evidence she might not believe you. Record one of his calls and play it back to her.
2006-10-18 11:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to tell her. If you asked him to stop and he hasn't then he truly doesn't care for her. He's probably going to cheat on her if he hasn't already and that will hurt more than you telling her what's going on.
2006-10-18 11:46:21 · answer #10 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋