my bf and i got into an argument yesterday and i didnt see him let alone talk to him till this morning. hes refusing to see me again today. the fight was about his priorities. he told me his friends are just as important as me and we have been together for almost 3 years. shouldn't i be a little more important? he said if i bring anything up about that stuff he will leave me.
well today i thought he lied to me about something and we had an argument over that. i made mistake and thought he lied to me and he keeps holding it against me and refuses to accept my apology when everyone is hanging out tonight now..but me. what can i say to make things better?
2006-10-18 11:31:03 · 18 answers · asked by Lisa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i have told him how i felt..nothing is better. i told him i made a mistake..it doesnt matter to him.
2006-10-18 11:32:12 · update #1
he has never lied to me before and i thought he lied to me today. and he was mad because i was angry with him because he didn't clarify things therefor i thought he was lying. he said i should stop assuming things
2006-10-18 11:33:09 · update #2
grow up...it will be ok
2006-10-18 11:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by iamdwill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is a bit immature and needs to grow up. If you have already said you are sorry there is nothing more you can do. AND yes you should be a little more important than his friends - but they are still important too...... He may be feeling scared or want to end things and is using argument as a way for you to end it and be the bad person. Anyway, I hope it all works out for you - which-ever way it goes -- all the best...
2006-10-18 18:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by akelaamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend really doesn't have his priorities straight. You should come before his friends. there is just no doubt about that question.
He's probably refusing too accept your apology because he wants too hang out with his friends. YOU need too go out with your friends, if you don't have any too hang out with then find somewhere too go alone. too a movie or too the mall, don't sit home and wait on this guy.
We all make mistakes, but we also acept apologies, relationships aren't perfect.
break it off with this guy and find someone more mature, one that values the relationship with you and would rather be with you than out with friends.
2006-10-18 18:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know as silly as your situation is i can relate because i dealt with something similar in my past relationship. it come down to this. should he say to u, "his friends are just as important"? NO. but the thing is, WHY do u and other women put men in the position of having to make a choice? u need to understand, like alot of women, that a successful relationship consists of 2 people with their OWN SEPERATE lives, who come together and form a strong bond. in other words, try and understand that him wanting to spend time with friends does not mean he DOES NOT, wanna spend time with u. allow your man some time away from u so that he can appreciate the time he has with u. now if u find yourself dissatisfied with how he prioritizes who he spends the most time with, then there's no need to argue. tell him that. and if he can't deliver in the way u would like, find someone who will. simple. no arguing neccesary.
2006-10-18 18:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two have some real problems here. It really sounds like he is just looking for an excuse at this point to break up with you. Any guy that really loves a girl puts her above his friends. You should really think about ending this relationship and finding someone who really loves you and wants to be in a relationship with you.
2006-10-18 18:37:14 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't let yourself be hurt, at least not when he sees it... Go out and do as he does, you'll find out in a minute if he ment what he said!!! If he doesn't mind, go party with the girls, and try to forget this guy who's treating you like this... But make sure that what ever happends you know who's right and who's wrong... You might be sufficating him without knowing it, (no offence) good luck
2006-10-18 18:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship needs understanding and compromise, you are becoming subservent to him and his feelings. You made a mistake, you went on your intuitions and we are not always right, but so what , you have apologized and there nothing more you can do than that, seems to be he enjoys having something ot hold over your head.
Keep your head up he will come around or you dont need him.
2006-10-18 18:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by Stacey F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if your heart tells you that you should break up with him and you have done everything you could 2 find out what is wrong then you know what to do. its not healthy 2 have him run over you. this happened 2 my best friend last year and she got back with him. and he was a jerk..he told her that he still has feelings for this other girl. she stayed with him until she relized that she knew what to do. even thought we told her to do it earlyer..she still did it for herself and not because every1 ttold herr 2. so just do what you want and what is best for you. it takes 2 for a relationship and for both to feel the same way, not just 1.
2006-10-18 18:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by culbeebabii23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you were married I would take your side, but since your boyfriend and girlfriend it is his right to say his friends are just as important as you. In saying that, he is probably not going to commit to a lifelong relationship.
If you can't live with that, then find a new boyfriend.
2006-10-18 18:36:05 · answer #9 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apologize and let the boy hang. now when hes going to hang out with his friends, let him know that you have plans too and that you wont be at home waiting for him to pop up. avoid these arguements by compromise. and stop sweating him about his friends,cuz theres somethings that you can give him, that they cant, and you need to remind him of that.
2006-10-18 18:38:04 · answer #10 · answered by JUBILI83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if he says that his friends are just as important then you, to me it sounds like your just a friend. but thats what it sounds like, I dont want you to think that. But really, to me it seems he's letting his friends controll him and it's getting in the way of your relationship. you should tell him that he should stop letting his friends controll him and start making his own decisions. but when he said dont bring it up or its over, to me that sounds like he's losing intrest in you and is having second thoughts because the highest form of love is forgiveness and if he cant forgive you theres really nothing there. dont want to make you feel bad or get in the way of anything but thats what it is to me. hope that helps.
2006-10-18 18:37:45 · answer #11 · answered by jonbird1990 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋