Why not just have her take your name? Who wears the pants in your family?
2006-10-18 11:29:47 · 15 answers · asked by oldstalecheeks 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When i got married, my husband didnt care if i took his name at all. He grew up in Puerto Rico and he said thats not normal custom for a woman to take her husbands name there. But i took his name for the sake of our future children.
2006-10-18 15:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Let"???!!! I don't think men have much of a choice in the matter.
My father had died, and there were no other people with my name than a couple of cousins. I did not want to just stop using my perfectly good name (and name that had kind of reached the end of its line in terms of who else from the family would have that name) and start using a name that wasn't even as nice a name.
It wasn't about my husband. It was about my name. There's a difference. A secure man would see that difference.
My daughter now has the name of her father. I hope when the times comes for her to decide whether or not to dump it she realizes that her name is just as important to her as some guy's name is to him. Its really easy to ask someone else to give up a name that means nothing to you. A hyphenated name is a nice way for the woman to add something meaningful to something meaningful she already has
Besides, with a 50% divorce rate out there it makes it easier for the woman to just dump off the husband's last name from her checking account if a divorce happens!! :)
2006-10-18 12:12:30 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't hyphenate my name when I married....but when I divorced I legally changed my name back to what it was before.
It doesn't matter who wears the pants....it matters whether there is respect, kindness, and real unconditional love....and it sounds as if you know nothing of these things.
2006-10-18 11:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
some women just don't want to change their name! I took my husbands last name....but I can also see why some just hyphenate. It is strange changing your name...almost like you aren't yourself anymore. kinda strange...I hope this helps! It isn't about who wears the pants...it is 2006 for chrissakes.....
2006-10-18 11:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-23 18:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by frandsen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of them wear pants when they decide too these days. Anyway, what do you mean by why did he let her do it, she made up her own mind, and as long as she respects her husband and do right by their marriage he shouldn't have a problem.
2006-10-18 11:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I took my husband's last name. I still deal with identity issues. Maybe men just don't have the mental integrity to handle such a change, that's why women do it.
2006-10-18 11:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even if a woman marries, she is still a Smith a Jones or whatever name she was born with...we don't get erased because we marry...we add on...not subtract!
who are you anyway? the hypenated nazi?
2006-10-18 11:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by YedidNefesh 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
And for those men who absolutely refused to let their women do that, how's the single life treating you?
2006-10-18 11:38:03 · answer #9 · answered by Vince M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't see why that is an issue. She keeps her name and adds his to it. Both win. A marriage should be about balance.
2006-10-18 11:48:02 · answer #10 · answered by E! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋