Can somebody give me some advice??

Question

I took a pregnancy test and the doctor came back and told me that I was pregnant 2mths. Im scared to tell my boyfriend that it might not be his it might be his brothers because he raped me about 3 months ago.I never told him because I knew if I told him he would think that Iwanted too have sex with his brother and Im just making it up. I just dont know what to do because I know if I tell my boyfriend he would get mad and start hitting me like he always do and if I tell my mom his brother would try to come after me again. Can somebody please help me??

Answer 1

Your in a tough spot. First, go file a police report if you were raped. At this point there is little they can do without proof, but it is on record at least. Second get some counseling. No one should hit you, and you should not allow it or stay with them. Make sure that you get a paternity test when the child is born so the father can pay child support. If you were raped 3 months ago, and your only 2 months pregnant, it is not the brother's. You must tell your brother, and take out a restraining order if need be from your boyfriend and his brother. But, get the ball rolling.

Answer 2

Talk about a tough situation. I would go to the police, what he did is against the law and he should be punished. the reality though is that he may not get into any trouble because it was 3 months ago, unless you have some proof aside from your word. It's ugly but it happens. At least if you file a report there will be an official record with the police in case someone else ever accuses him. Your bf may have an easier time believing you if he sees you've filed a report. On the other hand it may turn him against you and make him side with his brother. If he does react that way then you're better off without him, especially since he hits you. On the outside looking in it appears that you're better off without that family in your life. One rapes, the other hits ..... makes you wonder how they were raised.

Tell your mom, you're going to need all the support you can get. She can help you do what needs to be done as well as help you to stay safe.

I wish you the best of luck and hope all works out for the best.

Answer 3

Please get away from this family. It sounds like your boyfriend is very abusive. You don't need to be with someone that you are afraid to tell things to. No one should physically harm you. As for the brother it is probably too late to do anything legal about the rape as all the evidence is gone and would turn into a he said/she said. My advice would be first, talk to your mother. Let her know everything that is going on. The rape, the abusive boyfriend, and the pregnancy. Second, go to the authorities. Tell the police everything, at the very least get restraining orders filed against both brothers. Third, go to your doctor or if you want to talk to someone that doesn't know you, Planned Parenthood. They will be able to discuss all of your options (abortion, adoption, keeping) and explore what support networks you have in place. Finally, call your local rape crisis center. Their number should be listed in the front of the yellow pages. Speak with a counselor. Often times they also work with battered women and can help guide you through the legal process. You are going through a lot right now. You need to focus on yourself. Get closer to people that are supportive of you and let go of the people who are holding you back. Just believe that you will come through this on the other side stronger for having endured. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Wow, what a mess. First of all you need to start worrying about you and the baby. You need to take care of yourself. If your boyfriend hits you, you should not be with him nor around him while you are pregnant. I think you need to continue to see the doctor, and take care of yourself. As far as the boyfriend's brother goes. You said you are only two months pregnant and he rapped you three months ago. Dosn't;t sound like it is his. But after the baby is born if you would like they can do blood testing. You should have done something with the brother rapping you along time ago. And you still can! Look in the pone book or on-line there are many places that can help you! You really need to talk to an adult about all this. Your mom if you can, or maybe a teacher, Aunt? I really think you need to mature before this baby comes.I had mine at 19 and it is a lot of work, but well worth it!

Answer 5

Wow, I don't know what to say but that you need to go to the police about the rape and the boyfriend hitting you. How old are you? Do you live with your boyfriend. Don't be afraid to say something to the police. This is unbelievable, I wasn't expecting this type of question. Go get help from a domestic abuse place also. 1-800-799-SAFE I just got that number off the internet for you. Remember you can always get help, I don't know your current living condition but there are alot of places that can help, just ask them in the police department. Remember you can get a restraining order also, and it won't cost if you feel your in danger and give the judge reasonable assurance.

Answer 6

It sounds like you've gotten yourself involved in a very abusive family.
Run. Run away. Run away very fast.
Tell your parents and if you have a relative that lives far away, make plans to go there.
Do not tell your bf or his brother. That would make everything worse.

You should have your parents take you to the police station to file a report and then leave. i wouldn't tell anyone but my parents where I was going.

God speed, girl.

Answer 7

I'd say get counseling on the rape. Very important to know that your not at fault. Easily said, harder to believe. On the baby, do you really want either men involved with that Innocent life? a rapist and abuser? That family sounds rotten to me. you need to get away from the lot of them, lean on your family. lean on the concealers. Lean on God. But do the right thing for that child.

Answer 8

wow I dont even know what to say about this whole thing...first of all if your bf hits you get away from that..as for the brother that raped you I dont understand how you would not tell someone..and you have to decide if you want this baby on your own without your nutty bf

Answer 9

Oh honey! If your boyfriend is hitting you and his brother raped you, you need to get yourself out of that situation ASAP. You are in an unhealthy environment for you and your baby. You need to break up with your boyfriend and get away from his brother. If they comes near you or if you feel threatened by them, get a restraining order against them.

In 1998, my cousin tried to get away from her abusive husband after she had their baby. She was missing and her husband didn't report it. They found her remains near a shooting range. It was off some random road that no one really drives by. My aunt and uncle went on the news saying that it was her husband who killed her. It turned out to be a cold case and they never convicted him even though it was clear that he was abusing her.

Anyway, since they couldn't prove that her husband killed her, he got custody of their daughter and left the state. My Aunt & Uncle never saw their grandchild ever again.

Please get away from your boyfriend ASAP!!!

Answer 10

i am soory to hear that you are going trew this i think first of all you should tell your mom and the both of you go to the police department and report both your bf and his brother it was wrong what they both done if your bf loves you he would not be hitting you you need to report him he could kill you and your baby before it is even born you do not need yo be with him if he hits you .His brother should be locked up for rape if you do not tell he could still come after you again you need to stop him stop both of them. and the baby i think is yours bfs because you are only 2 months prego instead of 3 GOOD LUCK TO YOU PLEASE HELP YOURSELF AND YOUR BABY