Well, what do you think about this....?

Question

...i'm married and attracted (VERY attracted) to this other guy. I know that nothing will ever come of this because he just sees me as a good friend, which I will take because its better than having no contact with him at all, we go out, as friends. I've told my husband that we've gone out, NOT that I'm attracted to him, and he seems okay with it, my question is, if this keeps happening, do you think there is a chance that maybe we'll get together?? I've heard of friends becoming involved and I'm not sure I'd be able to say no. Should I end the friendship? Help please.

Answer 1

It could, especially if he knows or learns how you feel, and likes it.

I had this "friend". He was married, and had lots of friends in grad school, who openly discussed sex all the time. One time, he and the one good girl friend of his went to a bar and ended up staying and drinking together all afternoon (no-one they called wanted to hang out). Eventually, the girl (who was also married) professed that she had a huge crush on him. He asked her what would happen if they did this and that, she responded favorably. At one point, she kissed him, then later, in the middle of the bar, started massaging his p.a.c.k.a.g.e under the table, to the point where she took it out, and kept going. Very quickly thereafter, they went to the bathroom and f.u.c.k.e.d. each other senseless.

From what I hear, it was an amazing time, but both felt really really bad about it. (In fact, not only does he continue to m.a.s.t.u.r.b.a.t.e to the experience quite often, but I'm getting aroused just thinking about it).

Be careful, as **** like that can and does happen. Think long and hard about what you really want, who you'd hurt, and how your life would change if you got caught. My friend hasn't (yet), but according to Playboy, cheaters are extremely likely to get caught sooner or later, and you have to be prepared to deal with the consequenses. Email me if you need more help.

Answer 2

You know the answer to this question before you asked. You know you are married and trying to have a relationship with this guy already. You are secretly hoping that if you see him enough it will allow you to play with him.

My question to you is this. Are you committed to your marriage?
If your answer is no then tell your husband now so he can find someone who is that is actually worthy of the trust he is extending to you.

If your answer is yes then you know full well that you need to end this extra marital relationship. If you play with it you will get it on you and then you will have the consequences of answering no to my question whether you want them or not.

You are not a child and you have entered into a marriage and made vows to a man that you will love him and only death will separate you. This is not a game, and either way you will not win if you do not honor your vows and integrity.

On attraction, there will always be a person or even many people that we see or have dealings with that we feel are attractive. The difference is integrity. You have chosen the man that you wanted to be with and married him. You don't get to choose again just because there are others out there that may strike you as better later. If you feel you have made a mistake and cannot honor your integrity or vows to your husband you owe it to him to be honest and do it now instead of selfishly waiting until you have another "love" so you won't be alone.

Answer 3

don't stop being his friend just keep space and distance respect your marriage and let him do the same most of all talk to your husband get direct and to the point tell him how you feel this guy may only see you as a friend even if you have sex with him my guess is that there's problems at home i know am not wrong don't put your marriage in any more jeporady than necessary especially if there is children involved

Answer 4

U are married and you're asking people's advice if there's a chance for u and this "friend" of yours to get together? Wtf! Do u realize u are not single anymore and yet here u are lying to your husband telling him that u are not attracted to this other guy just so he can feel okay about u going out with him. Lady...u are screwed up!

Answer 5

You are keeping secrets from your husband, you are devoting time and thought to another man. That construes emotional cheating. The best thing you can do if you want to have and save your marriage is have no contact with this other man.

You already admit that it could become physical. Honor your wedding vows or get a divorce.

Answer 6

It is quite clear that you are no longer in love with your husband. It is unfair of you to string your husband along while you pine over this other guy. You should divorce your husband immediately, than you can do what you want.

Answer 7

Yes, you should end the friendship. If you value your vows and your husband, this isn't right. Do unto others as you would have done to you.

Answer 8

All i can say is do what is right now, you haven't in the past. Don't lie to your husband, tell him about it,
you told every body else today.

Answer 9

My question to you is, Do you have faith in God? and do you have a conscience and live by boundaries of right and wrong? Ther is nothing wrong with having other friends beyond the marriage or relationships but we must keep our moral boundaries in check.

Answer 10

don't end the friendship, just control yourself! If you can't end the marriage becuase it is obvious you don't want to be in it anyways if you are asking this question...sorry...