MY boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 yrs. and 6months living together. He wants to have a child with me. I have a son and I had him young. I vowed to not have any more until I was married but I am considering it. I have had some problems with it and am now on fertiliy drugs. I have tried everything and continue to do so. He makes me feel bad for not conceiving quickly as if I have any control over it. He also belittles me in front of our friends with this and threatens me with a time frame or he's leaving. HELP ME!!!! What should I do?
2006-10-18 11:23:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dump his stupid ***! He is emotionally abusing you. It's not your fault your having trouble concieving! And you said you didnt want any more till your married right? So if he knows this .... wheres the proposal? Dont settle for some dude that treats you like that. you deserve better.
2006-10-18 11:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that you aren't the important one in his life. If you mean nothing and the only thing that does is that you conceive his child then he is the one in the wrong. You should come first and I think you should go back to sticking to your guns. Get married first and take care of the love and relationship you need to raise a child. Belittling you infront of anyone or when you are alone is abuse. Don't take it.
Have you ever thought that maybe it is him with the problem? You obviously can get pregnant as you've done it before. What about him? Maybe he has the fertility problem?
2006-10-18 18:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by vancie121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever as man belittles you in private or in public, he is telling you that he wants to be out of the relationship. You now have the opportunity to leave him before he leaves you. Find someone who will love you for you and not for what you can or cannot produce.
2006-10-18 18:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him first...this guy is not your boyfriend, he is your master. He doesn't love you or care about your feelings, all he cares about is forcing you to have a kid for him. You were right originally to choose not to have a kid till you were married. This guy didn't respect that choice and isn't even offering you marriage. You would be better off without him and odds are even if you do get pregnant he isn't going to stick around.
2006-10-18 18:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him not to bother waiting for his 'time frame'. Tell him to leave now. You are making a huge mistake if you have a child with this jerk. Get away from him as quickly as possible.
2006-10-18 18:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want this abusive immature person to be the father of your child? Please do yourself and your potential child a favor and keep to your promise to yourself. Don't have another child until you are married to someone who deserves you and possibly a child. If you can't have another one, then you can't.
Leave this guy, you deserve better than that.
2006-10-18 18:27:44 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prepare for a long lonely life alone....depression and weight problmes beckon, and with that whining attitude you have as well...I see a dark dark future for you....shut up before it is too late xxxxx Oh! by the way , ignore the Religious Nutters, Losers, fat ugly and bitter individuals and the spotty never had a partner..ever... 'living alone with my Star Trek DVD's" bozos that post xxx
2006-10-18 18:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am so sorry to hear that no one should be belittled in front of anyone. Don't say goodbuy just yet wait ...think things through than you'll get an idea on how to deal with this situation, have patience ..please have patience. and faith
2006-10-18 18:27:24 · answer #8 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. You need to protect yourself from this idiot who is cutting you down in front of friends.
Do not have more children if you are not able to financially support them on your own.
God is trying to save you from this idiot.
2006-10-18 18:25:28 · answer #9 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him leave if he already verbally abusing you no telling what else he will do once your tied down with his child.
2006-10-18 18:25:41 · answer #10 · answered by AlishaM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋