what is the best way to deal with a 15 year old boy who is always answering back but is really a great kid?

Question

Never in trouble just plays golf and pitch and putt but cannot do what he is told without answering or questioning why he has to do it

Answer 1

dont listen to the people who tell you to ignore it or make it into a "joke"... ...you are the adult and the parent in the house... ...he can not take advantage of being an "overall" good kid... ...he has to take responsibility for what comes out of his mouth and it is up to you to make sure he does... ...i cant tell you how to do it cause it only took me one pop on the mouth to get mine straight but, you know your child and what makes him act right so, go ahead and take charge as his parent... good luck to you...

Answer 2

First of all he needs to know when an adult has said something it is what it is, especially his parents. He doesn't pay any bills or provide for any of his needs. He is a child who has to be put in his place. Parents are placed he so we can guide and direct our children not so they can question us. Whether he is a great kid or not trust me other adults notice things like this and trust me their talking. When he is getting smart or talking back. Take something away that he really enjoys for a long period of time. Let him know that his actions are acceptable by sitting down and talking to him and letting him know how you feel, then tell him their will be consequences the next time.

Answer 3

Just be glad he is never in trouble ,he,s a teenager after all if he grunts or moans and has a answer for everything at least he is awake .We should all remember what it was like I hear all the time at work about teenagers being a pain but we all were.Just getting old now ayy.Maybe his backchat is the answer he thinks is right but do we listen NOPE.good luck he will be an adult oneday

Answer 4

Demand respect -- respect for others, respect of self, and respect of property. Respect is showing that you care, period.

When he starts to question you, simply say: At 15 years old, you are old enough to understand what I told you to do and I expect you to get it done right and right away. Then walk away and leave him to deal with it. If he wants to back-talk, simply say: I am the parent and I expect you to do what I asked of you. Then walk away and leave him to deal with it.

If he doesn't do the task the way you asked for it to be done, then deal with that as a separate issue. Teen-agers are like two-year-olds, they are asserting their independence and testing to see how far they can push it -- again. If you let him push, he's going to push. If you don't let him push, then he won't. You don't have to be loud or abusive to get your point across, just be firm and don't allow him to be disrespectful. To get respect, you have to give respect. So don't be disrespectful of him. No nonsense, just the facts type attitude.

Answer 5

My son is the same answers me back, I do not take it too seriously or let myself get hit up about it, but they do need to know the boundaries, do not get angry for too long that can make it worse.

Answer 6

Try to ignore it, he's just testing his boundaries. Sit him down and talk to him about it. If he's a good kid, he'll appreciate you treating him with respect and recognising his developing maturity. Good luck!

Answer 7

Turn what they say into a joke, and make it really silly and funny. Or into a silly song. If you keep doing this, they'll stop from sheer embarrassment. After all, they are teenagers.

Answer 8

honey I have a 13yr old who is the same way I'll be tracking your question to see what kind of advice you get.

God Bless!!

Answer 9

Maybe he is holding in some hidden anger...