my husband is spending tomorrow with his ex while one of his is in the hospital...i understand that he should be there but i feel so sick inside. he is good to me and never associates with his ex but i feel so uneasy. any advice to help am anxiety????
2006-10-18 11:03:57 · 14 answers · asked by bossy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes its kids...sorry. i dont want to go because i think going to work would be better.... he has never done nothing for me to not trust him. i know he loves me.... but i cant get over my anxiety!! whats my problem?!?!? he is ther for his kid... i know all the obvious but my anxiety is KILLING me.
2006-10-18 11:14:07 · update #1
Yikes sticky situation. I think you should really try to be understanding and supportive of him right now. Sounds like he is a good trust-worthy guy. I think deep down you know you have nothing to worry about. He needs your support and understanding right now too. Try your best not to freak! By doing this you will create a stronger relationship.Things will soon be over with and you will be glad you stayed calm.
2006-10-18 11:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking as a child of divorce if he is assocating with is ex because his child from his ex is in the hospital then that is the best thing for his child, trust me the child has to come first and formost. If you were to prevent him from being there the child will never forgive the fact that dad wasn't there. You do have the choice to be there to especially if you have a relationship with the child yourself. this would mean the world to the child as well as to your husband. there are times that old issues and family disputes need to be set aside such as when a child is sic, deaths and celebrations such as graduations. I know that over the years my family came to a point where they were able to do this and it was a blessing to to both my sister and I. Trust that your husband is doing what is right for his child and that thre is nothing between him and the ex, there will always be tiems that theese things will crop up. it is hard to be the outsider I understand.
good luck
2006-10-18 18:17:46 · answer #2 · answered by no 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u talking about one of his kids being in the hospital? If so, I think u are overreacting a bit. Just because the woman is his ex, it doesn't change the fact that she is the mother of his kid(s) and right now, they both need to be there for the child. If this doesn't sit right with u then why don't u go with him and be by his side thru all this?
2006-10-18 18:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is making you feel insecure. You say you trust him, so then it must be YOU. This is something you have to address at some point. My husband has a son and if I couldn't be there at the hospital w/him and he was with his sons mom at the hopsital, I'd never worry. But I do feel you should be at the hospital w/him. You are his wife and have every right to be right there! She is NOT his wife, you are! Remember that. He married you, he divorced or agreed to divorce her. Uless he is living some lie, he no longer cares for her.
2006-10-18 18:23:24 · answer #4 · answered by artyspiff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming with one of his you mean one of his kids? If this is the case then be there with your husband. Yes he needs to be there for his child even with the ex there. Unless he has givin you reason to worry then don't. If you can't be there with him all day then stop in at lunch and go get something to eat together. I know when I had to deal with my ex at the hospital I loved my hubby coming by it showed that he did care about me and my child.
2006-10-18 18:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by Martha S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to have some trust. There has been several times that my fiancee has had to "spend time" with his ex wife because of the daughter. Just remember, she's and ex for a reason. Everything will be fine!
2006-10-18 18:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by texas y'all! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you leave out the word "kids"? Sounds like you don't have anything to worry about. Call in sick to work and be there too. Show your support for him and his kids. Don't make him feel bad for being a good dad.
2006-10-18 18:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by motherclucker41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go with him. If that is not an option, you should just trust that he is there for his child. Because they have kids together, she will always be in both your lives. I do not think you have to worry.
2006-10-18 18:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show your support to him and when hes gone take a nice warm bath with some relaxing music. Drink alot of wine!
2006-10-18 18:06:11 · answer #9 · answered by teenypurplebinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should be in the hospital pulling the plug on his ex not spending the day over there comforting her or something
2006-10-18 18:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋