Is it ok???

Question

My daughter is just a little over a month old and the doctors say that it is ok to let her cry a little bit here and there because lately she won't go to sleep if I am not holding her. In the past 3 days i have had 6 hours of sleep and I also have a 2 year old son that i have to look after. They say it is supposed to be healthy for them cleans there lungs out. My aunt says that is how she got her little to sleep through the night was let her cry her self to sleep but that isn't what i am wanting to do. I just want to get the point across that I am not going to pick her up every time she cries? Is it ok to let her cry a bit?

because it is slowly driving me crazy really need someone to talk to about this!

I do check to see if everything is ok if something is wrong I fix it........ I didn't have these problems with my first he would sleep sitting up if i let him......I have tried the swing with her she doesn't seem to like it as much as my son did

I have even done the trick of letting her sleep with one of my shirts and that didn't even work

Answer 1

Check make sure all her needs are met. She is dry, she is fed, she is burped. Then, yes, it is fine to let her cry a bit.

Answer 2

Your daughter is really young. I would not let her cry in the night for more than 10-15 minutes at a time. If she is crying hysterically than I would not let her cry at all. It is okay once she is past these delicate and early newborn months to let her cry for a little longer intervals. 30 minutes at 8-9 months. Never over an hour for a child. When she gets older you should be able to tell the difference between just crying to get attention and really needing something. I am not an expert. Just a mother. Try putting baby in infant swing. This worked well for me. Oh, if she is crying hysterically at any age then I would not let her cry for long at all. Especially over the first year. I mean hysterically crying about a real problem. If you have tried everything and she is still crying and appears to not have a temperature than I would let her cry for up to 15 minutes.

Answer 3

I have read lots of parenting material and most of it says it is ok to let a baby "cry it out". I think it depends a lot on the parent(s) though. Personally, hearing a baby cry and not going to him/her rips my heart out and I just can't bring myself to do it. However, my younger son (just turned 1 a week ago) was as close to colicky as I have ever gotten and there were times that I would make sure he was fed, changed, as comfortable as I could make him, etc. and just lay him in his bassinet/crib and let him cry so I could just go take a shower or something. Although I never let him cry himself to sleep I did co-sleep with him for a bit and I know that a lot of people are just as uncomfortable with that as I am with lettiing a baby cry it out. There are some other things you could try too, though. If a bath tends to help her fall asleep give her a bath right before bed. You might also want to try giving her a little infant massage afterthe bath, get her nice nad relaxed and maybe even play soft music, see if that helps and then if it does, over time she shouldn't need as much of a "production" just to get her to sleep. With a 2 year old also at home I'm sure this is probably starting to slowly drive you to the corner in a fetal position, but hang in there and it'll get better, I'm sure.
However, if she spits up frequently or seems to be having stomache aches or anything like that you might want to talk to her doctor and look in to the possiblity of acid reflux or something like that - my baby has that and that is what caused his colicky behaviour.
Good luck!

Answer 4

I didn't listen to what anyone else said about spoiling babies or letting her cry it out. I carried my daughter around all the time and would often hold her while she slept during the day, and I always held her until she fell asleep at night then put her in her crib. I knew she was only going to be that age once. And I'm happy to say it didn't spoil her at all. She was sleeping 6 hours at a time by 2 months, 7 hours a night within a couple of weeks after that, and pretty soon would sleep 8 hours. As she got older we would cuddle and play with her then put her to bed still awake and she didn't cry or fuss, she would babble to herself for awhile then go to sleep. I know it's not as practical for you to carry your daughter around since you have another child, but still, it doesn't hurt a baby to cuddle and hold her when you can.

Answer 5

I would have to say this is a personal call. Everyone told me to let my daughter CIO - but I felt like if she was crying it was because she needed something. It might not always be something you are aware of - maybe your daughter is in need of some human contact and that is why she is crying. I didn't think it was right at that young an age for me personally. Will they eventually stop crying - yes! They are infants - they aren't stupid - if they cry for what they want and don't get it they will stop.

Answer 6

Yes it is ok....

for her to cry a little. It is a stress reliever. My sister is on a program and her baby is 3 months old and is sleeping though the night...8 hours!! She puts her in the bed when it's time to sleep and now she goes to sleep. At first, she cried a little. THis method isn't for everyone. But babies do cry and it's ok. If she cries for a long time, that is not good.

sometimes babies cry when they are OVERSTIMULATED. Meaning, you are doing too much to them and they need to be left alone with nothing going on.

Answer 7

My second baby was like that... she always wanted to be held. Everytime I put her down she would wake up. The only way she was able to sleep during the day was when she was in the swing. She like to be swaddled too. I also tried letting her sleep in her carriage... that helped. I think because she like that close surrounding and coziness of the carriage. I never let my children cry too much... I just couldnt do it. They are crying for a reason ... especially when they are that young. She probably just wants to be with you, smell, and listen to you. Shell grow out of it soon enough. Are you using a pacifier to help sooth her?

Answer 8

My dad used to tell me crying makes lungs stronger. It made me feel more at ease about letting my baby cry it out. I am a firm believer in it and it's worked for me so far. As long as the child is feed, clean, and has been played with during the day--there is nothing wrong with crying as far as I'm concerned!

Answer 9

absolutely! you don't have to leave her to cry for ages, she is only 1 month old and wants to be close to you (considering she has been inside you for 9 months) is there anyone you can trust enough to leave the kids with so you can get some rest? the baby is a bit too young to let cry for any length of time, being with you is what she wants and needs at least for the first 2 months, go with your instincts

Answer 10

No, it's not OK to let your baby cry. Crying is her only means of communication at this point and now is the time that she is learning if she can trust her caregivers or not. She sounds like a "high needs" baby, but it's your responsibility to meet those needs. When babies are left alone to cry it out their stress hormone levels skyrocket--not a good thing! I would suggest reading about fussy babies at Dr. Sears' site (listed below) and learning how to wear your baby in a sling or other kind of carrier (this can reduce fussiness by alot) at a NINO meeting near you (see link below).

Answer 11

go ahead and let her cry. It's definetly not going to hurt her. Did something change that she's crying more? Or maybe her milk isn't agreeing with her. My daughter screamed for the first month of her life because I was breast feeding her and she needed soy milk. try a vibrating bassinet or ever get a back massager and put it in her crib. It might help.