My husband does not get turned on or anything unless he's touched down there. It had caused problems in our marriage and I've asked him to see a doctor. Can anyone help me out with this problem as to why this may be happening?
2006-10-18 10:48:13 · 14 answers · asked by Looking For Help 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
My husband doesn't get arroused unless touched down there...?
My husband does not get turned on or anything unless he's touched down there. It had caused problems in our marriage and I've asked him to see a doctor. Can anyone help me out with this problem as to why this may be happening? ... ok that is what i've posted at first.. but i must add to this because the answers i'm getting back aren't what i was looking for i suppose. The only way he gets turned on is if I touch him. But most of the time he WONT let me touch him. He says he's never in the mood. And by never I mean we MIGHT have sex once every four months or so. He's only 27. He's been that way the whole time I've known him. I know he loves me and I know he's not seeing anyone else. I do believe him when he says he is sexual attracted to me. but when i ask him what is the problem to why we dont have sex he says he doesnt know. I dont want to beg him for it if he doesnt want to give it up. I've tried everything. Someone HELP!
2006-10-19 12:45:32 · update #1
Unless he is 18 year old it is probably natural that he is like that. Also sometimes after a period of marriage a man is not aroused simply on cue or by looking at you. It is normal. Be happy he does not get excited over someone else and quit complaining.
2006-10-18 11:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by egotist61 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Please excuse ignorance and lack of reading things completely and others that don't know what they are talking about. Your husband is 27 so no this is not normal, and one stupid person posted you don't like touching him?..dah if he had read he would of seen you said he didn't want you to touch him, I am no expert and I am sure you have talked about this. This is something you will both have to work on and it will not be something that can be fixed over night and will more then likely be something you will have to work at constantly unless something changes. I would suggest seeing a doctor first and having a testosterone level done but I also read where he doesn't want to do that. If he doesnt want to see anyone about this or see's this as a problem I would suggest to keep trying to get him to open up to you more and try to work at it together or that your marriage may be in jeopardy. It will be hard but that's the only way it can be resolved.
2006-10-20 06:23:28 · answer #2 · answered by Debbie H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It appears to me that he is only caring about his sexual pleasure which is very wrong especially in marriage. Sex in marriage is suppose to be more like making love, foreplay, romance, touching, caressing, enjoying the time with your mate. It sounds to me like he just wants a wham bam girl and a wife is more then just this crap. I would tell him that until he starts putting forth some energy too satisfy you as well then he can go without. Seriously if you go down for him then he should be returning the favour tell him NO MORE Blowjobs until you get something in return that should snap him out of it. Crap if anything he is missing out on some serious foreplay his loss. He sounds like a lazy, selfish guy who just wants to get his rocks off and could care less if he ever gets you to orgasm. He could just be scared so many woman talk about how bad there husband is down below and if he has never done it then he could be a little shy about going down there reassure him that you can guide him the first few times and then he should be good to go on his own. Good Luck and Best Wishes. Seriously though if he doesn't put out neither should you.
2016-05-22 00:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't see a problem there. Many people are arroused on different ways. Just like - some like when girl press while holding, other for her to be very gentle with it....it all depends. But deffinitly I don't see a problem! Maybe you should just accapt the fact that he is like that, getting arroused in other way then you expact (but it deosn't mean it's not absolutly normal)
2006-10-18 11:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by lina_girl06 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It could be that is mind is not being stimulated...yes the actual brain..
Have you tryed sexy wear or messaging his body or dancing for him, or just being naughty,...Men tend to think on a different level..
where women want romance, through out the days and men can just get on right then without emotions..but stimulat his brain,,trust me...make it like when you first met...that tingling in the tummy...
This is going to sound. perverse I am just trying to help..
but when your kissing and just romancing,,,,having me in back of y ou as he caresss you and let his touch your back side..of course still in clothes...
2006-10-18 10:59:26 · answer #5 · answered by BellyDancingDeva 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
WHY IS TOUCHING HIM ...."DOWN THERE" ....A PROBLEM..... DON'T YOU LIKE BEING TOUCHED "DOWN THERE" seems to me you are the one with the problem...he is picking up on that ..you are not turning him on at all .....my wife and i been married 27 years and she don't have a problem touching me down there....besides ,,,just looking at her turns me on...... I REALLY THINK YOU NEED TO GROW UP AND STOP PLAYING HOUSE AND START BEING A WIFE!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-18 16:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by mark22059 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting how many women post on these sort...getting off with a rampant rabbit are we girls hahaha
2006-10-18 11:52:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as it works OK otherwise i don't think I'd complain. At least you won't have to worry about it popping up at awkward moments.
2006-10-18 10:57:11 · answer #8 · answered by Skanky McSkankypants 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be glad that's the only way he gets aroused. You would not want him going to work with his slong hard and bulging out of his area during a meeting
2006-10-18 11:04:09 · answer #9 · answered by xlhdrider 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
it could be a condition or it is just because he doesn't get sexually aroused as much as he used to. That would be my best guess.
2006-10-18 10:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋