im deployed in iraq 4 the past 9 months and somebody told her that every body that is here has sex with somebody but that coundnt be farther from the truth and i would never cheat on her anyhow cause i love her like no other
2006-10-18 10:45:24 · 12 answers · asked by b-dogg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would just like to say Thanks... My husband is in Iraq right now.. But to think of him cheating.. I truly don't think he has.. Unless the couple of females he runs into on line is considered cheating.... That's a sad situation to even have to focus on while your away... If she had any type of heart she would have waited until you were out of harms way to put this on you.... I talk to my husband often and outside of guard duty and missions every now and then, he takes the time to contact me....
I pray that she becomes your encouragement while your there.. You need to stay rounded and rooted so that you can focus on the things going on around you...
I don't know what to say, to try to convince her.. Cause love is not a compromise at all... If she loves you she will be there for you despite if you is or your not cheating.... If she don't love you and just can't handle the fact that your deployed, then unfortunately she's going to walk away and use this as an way to get out... It's a cowardly move, but not all women are cut out to be a military spouse........
Good luck and feel free to contact me..
I respect what you do and wish you the best........
2006-10-18 16:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by The'Truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you EVER give her reason to distrust you? iF SO, YOU WILL HAVE TO RE-EARN HER TRUST & IT WILL BE A LONG ROAD, BUT IF SHE'S WORTH IT -- YOU WILL 'STAY THE COURSE".
Sorry for caps)
If you NEVER gave her a reason to suspect you, then you have a couple options.
1. Let her go, she has an emotional problem and you'll spend your life trying to satisfy her inadequacies & emotional problems.
2. You can decide if you love her enough to go thru years of pschological help for her as she may have deep seated emotional problems. If you marry her the Gov. will pay her medical bills (I'd check to see what they pay toward spousal psycho. help first.
You have to decide if "she is the one", can you bear up for perhaps years of emotional problems, or is it better to maybe talk to her family and let them know she needs their help.
This is a heartbreaking problem, just remember -- your life is valuable too and you know deep inside what the right answer is. Best wishes. Barbie
2006-10-18 17:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by BARBIE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off dont listen to this first girl. Just because your gf suspects you doesn't mean she is cheating. She is worried. Of course if you wanted to cheat on her in Iraq it would be very easy. You have to be somewhat understanding of what she is going through. Your best bet is to continue to tell her that you love her like no other and have no desire to cheat on her.
2006-10-18 17:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her how you feel and explain that she shouldn't be listening to rumors. Also explain to her how bad it is over there. I was in Afghanistan for 8 months and it wasn't fun, my husband heard the same rumors but didn't believe because he loves me and knows I would never cheat on him and he on me. Keep in touch with her as much as you can and send pics of yourself and encourage her to do the same so you feel closer. Also home movies or e-mails with pics/videos are cool. The closer you are the easier it will be for both of you. Good Luck and God Speed. Thank-You for all that you are doing. If she wants to talk tell her to IM me.
2006-10-18 17:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by natmys333 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, this is her problem. There is nothing you can do to convince her. If you told her that you are not cheating and she refuses to believe it, it is a problem of her being too insecure and close-minded. If she has convinced/deluded herself that you are fooling around I can't imagine what you could say (truth or not) that would change the negative attitude she has. I think you deserve to be with someone who is confident in herself and in you and one who believes what you say. This girl sounds immature.
2006-10-18 17:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she doesn't trust you then you don't need her any way. We all know that you don't get time off from dodging bullets to go and have sex with some total stranger! So if your girlfriend wants to believe that then let her. you and most people in the world know this!
2006-10-18 17:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by tygereyez03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this but if she doesn't trust you, you need to give her up. I'm just saying she's accusing you of something your not doing and if she trust you she wouldn't assume that your cheating. And if this is her first time thinking this its more than likely that she is the one cheating and she's accusing you to cover herself up.
2006-10-18 17:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by Katrina G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people accuse you of things they have done. Maybe she is cheating on you......
And if she is, she will think, hmmm I'm getting away with this and maybe he is too?
Just a theory, anyway tell her you are faithful and you love only her... And that you are not everyone else...
2006-10-18 17:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by easinclair 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it sounds like she's cheating on you. If she can't trust you and won't get off your back, leave her. There's a woman out there that has high(er) self-esteem and can trust you!
2006-10-18 17:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
Just tell her the truth, she needs to trust you no matter where you are.Also if she does love you why doesn't she move with you there.
Trust is very important in a relationship, if there is no trust, there is no love.
2006-10-18 17:56:26 · answer #10 · answered by oneswtmystery 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋