How can you trust a partner who has been unfaithful?

Answer 1

Ooo hard one...how indeed, how much time would you need, how much faith could you give them not to do this again.
How many arguments when they say, you dont trust me, and you say...and guess why that is.

I think that this is the hardest thing to get over, the person who has done wrong has to sacrifice the freedom they previously had as the trust is gone and the person who was wronged often feels guilty because of their lack of trust with their partner.
I think that both people have to rediscover themselves and start to lead a new life together to get over this.
If you both want to keep doing the old things then the lack of trust will break you.

Answer 2

It's going to take a long time. Trust isn't something u can just rebuilt overnight. Sometimes it takes years and even then it may never be 100% again. Your partner has to earn your trust back and they have to prove it to u over and over that they won't ever do it again.
Just remember that forgiving and forgetting are two different things and while u might find it easy to forgive, often times u will realize that forgetting is the hard part.

Answer 3

Question.

Does it really matter?

He's shagged someone. So what? If the relationship he entered into is more important mentally and emotionally than you and partners then fair enough end it. Does he want to continue with you?

Men have meaningless sex because they can.

No you can never trust a person again.

The question should be is not how can you trust a partner again, but does it matter?

Answer 4

I dont think you can ever be the same again
If you are married it would perhaps mean working at it to stay together but my advice is get out of it the trust has been trampled on and you will always have the knowledge that your partner was not faithful to you can you take him/her back? I think its time to go when that happens go gracefully with your head held high and find a decent human being who is faithful

Answer 5

Michelle, are you quite sure you've never been unfaithful yourself?! Anyway, it's part of a man's nature to stray. It usually means ABSOLUTELY NOTHING - except disappointemnt for you and guilt for him. To quote a film from 1938, It is who you find yourself with at the end that counts. I don't know the circumstances. If you really like him, I'd forgst about it. But a word of caution! Do not be tempted to retaliate by doing the same thing yourself. I know for sure both will regret it! Big hug from Brazil!

Answer 6

All i can say is it is vary hard to trust a guy that has been unfaithful. You may never be able to fully trust them again

Answer 7

Take it from some one who has been there. You never truly trust again, because in the back of your mind you are always gonna have the what ifs. Remember you can forgive what a person has said and done, but you will never forget how they made you feel. Sorry
Good Luck

Answer 8

You can't. Trust is earned, not just a choice you make. If you are going to try again, you two need counseling. Some can overcome this - but it is not easy. You have to ask yourself if you can truly live a life of wondering all the time if it will happen again or is happening. Follow your heart.

Answer 9

It takes time, and it takes effort on both sides to rebuild the trust.

With some, you just can't, because they don't change the behavior and continue to be unfaithful. But some do change, and those you can rebuild a relationship with. But it takes time and effort.

Answer 10

Don't even try you'll only raise your stress level. Losing your trust is the hardest situation to deal with in a relationship, so it's an individual case basis on whether it can be forgiven or not.