So, I've got a friend & she says she's been raped by this one guy. I told her that people would believe it cuz of the way he is. So, I told her about this one time when he touched me. I told her not to say anything about it though. But ended up & she did. She's probably gonna take him to court, but she has no evidence & she needs back up & she wants me to go with her. I don't want to get my family into this. I haven't told my mother or dad. I don't want to walk in school & have people say I'm a liar & ask questions. He'd deny it anyway. I don't even know who I believe. I don't think she'd lie about it. but he's 18 & is messing up his whole life.....just doesn't sound like him. Should I go to court & get involved or leave it alone & stay out of it. Please help me. This is serious.
2006-10-18 10:18:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
honestly i would go to court and back her up only if you believe her. i had a friend one time get raped by her step dad. her now ex b/f got her to tell him what happened but she swore him to keep it quite. well he told my now ex and he told me, i made sure that what he told me about her being raped was true and it was. i called her mom and told her the whole story, she got her daughter outta school and she confessed to her. now that jerk is in prison for what he did. so i would really be there for her and back her up.
2006-10-18 10:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by emoandpunkchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way.........he touched you wrong and you didn't say anything and then he raped your friend. If he gets away with it then chances are he will do the same thing again and again until finally someone does the right thing and prosecutes him. It is understandable that you don't want to get your family involved in this but if you have a younger sister really consider it, how would you feel if you said or did nothing and then he did it to her. Statistics show each time a rapist attacks they get more violent than the previous attack, could you handle knowing a woman was disfigured or killed by this man and you could have said something. He is 18 years old, he is an adult and as an adult he has to know that life has consequences to it. The only way for him to change is to have to face what he has done AND be remorseful for it. You are almost sounding like now you want to protect him. If he touched you once he will again, if he has raped once he will again. Do him a favor and get him some help and be theri for your friend.
2006-10-18 10:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it one minute you are saying that people would believe it cos that's the way he is then u say that it's not like him, can't quite make up my mind, don't get me wrong i am not having a dig at you i just a little confused, anyway I don't think you should get involved cos if she is lying you could both be ruining an innocent mans life, on the other hand she could be telling the truth, sit her down and ask her if what she is saying is definitely true because once you take this guy to court there is no going back and she can't undo what she has done to him and you for that matter.
2006-10-18 10:42:23 · answer #3 · answered by ball_cathie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is doing the right thing by taking this guy too court! You need too go too court and just tell the truth. Thats all you have too do, Tell The Truth. He has probably got away with doing this many times before but, like you, girls get scared too tell, so they don't tell and he just keeps getting away with it.
2006-10-18 10:28:19 · answer #4 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The choice is up to you. But you do realize that you contribute to letting a possible rapist go free. I mean, what if he starts targeting little girls, or become a serial rapist/killer? Definatley food for thought...
2006-10-18 10:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by O.K.Q.T. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to court!!! if he did this to u and now ur friend, who could be next??? but u really need to tell ur mom!! i know that u dont want to but it's something that u have to do!!! she wont hate u!!! i know it's happened to me and my best friend she didnt want to go but she ended up going and the guy got 10 years!!! but it's something. but i was u i would go!!
2006-10-18 10:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by mustangsweetthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to court or if he gets away with it he'll end up raping and touchig other girls and he might get away again
2006-10-18 10:22:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
SPEAK UP!!! YOU MIGHT SAVE SOMEBODY ELSE FROM GOING THRU THE SAME THING!!! HURRY!!!!!
2006-10-18 10:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would asy the trith because what if he does it to another girl?
2006-10-18 10:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by true-mysteryfrom chinese wish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if it's true you don't want him to do this to another girl
2006-10-18 10:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by BROWNLYN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋