It is two hours away from where I live.I still make more than him. I paid for his classes and books etc... He still does not have his degree. He was able to land the job of his dreams and is still taking classes. I am proud of him. I have a Master's degree. He wants me to sell my house(had it before we married) and get a job in his area. I REALLY LOVE MY JOB!!!! What should I do? He can not save a dime and is in debt. I am just the opposite. I love him and this is driving me me crazy. p.s. he accepted the job without discussing it with me.
2006-10-18 10:13:47 · 13 answers · asked by boxley4404 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not fair for him to ask u to give up a job that u love just because he's unwilling to commute the 2 hrs it takes to get to and from. I say stick with your job and let him commute. This is the least he can do after accepting a job offer he didn't discuss with u.
2006-10-18 10:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would NOT sell the house. I would NOT quit a good job I loved. It may be that he'll have to have a 2 hour commute for a while. Several people I know have very long commutes - not because of distance, but because of traffic. A 60-mile commute in So Cal can take an hour and a half or more. But they manage! If 10,000 is worth it for you guys, he needs to tough it out for a little while, and then once he has the degree, hopefully he'll be able to have a better shot at getting a good job in the area.
When I first graduated school, I had a regular part-time job 4 days a week, and I took on an internship 3 days a week. Do the math - I was working 7 days a week for as long as I've had the internship (which was about 8 months); no days off at all. I was married at the time. Looking back, I don't know how I managed, but I did. I now have a job in the field that I studied for, which I absolutely love.
The reason why I don't feel that it would be a wise choice for you to quite a good job and sell the house is because you have proved yourself financially responsible, and he hasn't. It's always easier to give something up than to get it back again. Financial responsibility can be learned, and it doesn't make him a bad person to lack money management skills... But you have to be careful with that, and be the reasonable one in the family.
2006-10-18 10:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A more lucrative partnership? LOL So, basically, you're professional gold digger. Are you my husband's ex-wife? Sheesh, just put the poor man out of his misery already. There's no possible way you could emasculate him any more than you already have, so you may as well just pee in his cornflakes and give him the bad news now. Hopefully he had a pre-nup so you won't be getting your greedy little paws on his hard-earned money. Go find you some dried up skeleton billionaire like Anna Nicole Smith did. That should work out.
2016-03-28 00:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is a good thing he found something paying more, maybe sell the house and get something in between, my father and step mother did that for years, now they have a new house around the corner from his job, but my step mother now travels 1 1/2 hours to work. But they think it is worth it!
2006-10-18 10:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may i suggest a compromise?
move halfway between both jobs so its not as far of a driver for him but you would not have to leave your job
after all, it is his dream job too and it is paying 10K more than his last job
this is one of those perilous paths that could have been avoided by him discussing this with you before he made the decision, now that the decision is made you have to decide.
are you going to move and inconvenience your life a little more (it will come up in arguments)
are you going to argue with him on this and make him quit that job for something closer and hold him back from his dreams and good jobs (it will come up in arguments)
are you going to stay put and make him travel 2 hours each way missing out on all that time you can be with him and him being tired from the long comute (it will come up in arguments)
are you going to give up your house and your job and move out closer to his job and give up everything (it will come up in arguments)
2006-10-18 10:47:50 · answer #5 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he accepted the job without consulting you he can commute. You are still the primary bread winner your commute matters more. Don't sell the house. I would be livid if my guy made that kind of life altering decision without consulting me.
2006-10-18 10:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be worried about him not discussing it with you. That doesn't sound right.
IF you guys live inbetween then it is only an hours commute for both right?
2006-10-18 10:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he should have thought about that before he took the job--the question is are you willing to move -if he can't he find a job in your town?
2006-10-18 10:18:33 · answer #8 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him no and that he needs to commute.
2006-10-18 12:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give up your security. rent your house out if possible.
2006-10-18 10:18:27 · answer #10 · answered by kierstead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋