My car keys were stolen by a friend and locked inside his truck. After begging him for 20 minutes, i called my mom and asked her to bring the extra set of keys. 3 minutes later, his girlfriend finally coaxed him into opening the truck and getting my keys. She does not lie me by the way. My car was parked with the windows down in the middle of the road. He reached in and took them from the ignition. My friends were there putting toothpaste on the windows of his truck and he thinks i did it but i was standing there talking to him the entire time. IT seems every time i am with this group of friends i get into trouble. I need to stop hanging around them. BUt my mom thinks i am the one that instigated it and is now taking priveledges away from me.
2006-10-18 10:07:21 · 5 answers · asked by aloneforeverinmyworld 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First off you already have the answer. you need to get a new set of friends. second your mom is your mother so to keep the peace even though you may feel that you are in the right and she is in the wrong be mature and just apologize to her. let her know that you are sorry for the way things went and you are trying to make a change in that regard. now they can't be empty words so you have to actually make a change. like get rid of those friends. Talk is cheap so you have to put some action behind your words for someone to beleive that you are genuine.
2006-10-18 10:12:27 · answer #1 · answered by mdbdyot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom thinks you are the one that instigated this then she probably has some reason too think that.
You really need too stop hanging out with this group of friends before It leads too something really serious. I have always told my kids that they are responsiable for their own actions! No matter what friends you are with, friends don't force you too do anything, but they are a big influence in your life.
If you want too get back on your mom's good side,which might take a while, then you need too find a new group of friends! And also take your punishment without being mad. Start taking responsability for your actions. Your mom is doing the right thing by taking some priveledges away from you, but she's not doing it too be mean..believe me, I'm a mom so i know what I'm talking about. She loves you and wants you too stay safe and out of trouble. You should go give your mom a big hug and thank her !!
2006-10-18 10:21:41 · answer #2 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was not a kid who got into serious trouble, but when I was in elementary school I was a little ring-leader when it came to get a group of kids together to down to the public library and scream through the mail slot and into the adult section or walking by a local newspaper office and making faces until one of the people got so aggravated he'd come out and chase us away. I thought up that I wanted to wear make-up at 11 too. Still, whenever my mother found out about stuff she'd blame it on the other kids I was with and act as if I was some stupid, weak, little, follower. It made me really angry that she didn't see my "leadership skills"!!
If your mother has erred on the side of believing you were the ring-leader in this recent business you should take that as her seeing you as too intelligent and strong a kid to be a follower. Since she probably doesn't see the any logical sense in recent events, she probably can't just take it for granted that you know you need to find different people to hang out with. As a result, she's erring on the side of doing what a parent should if a kid gets in trouble and taking away privileges.
She may also believe if she limits your time going out or computer access or phone access it will reduce your opportunities to stay in touch with these kids.
If you want to get back on her "good side" just to have her return some privileges to you you're missing the point. If its because you're uncomfortable that she's upset with what has happened, she'll get over it sooner than you think she will. Something to note about parents is that if they believe their kid is "headed for trouble" they get really scared that their kid will do something to ruin his future. As a result, they sometimes think, "I just have to do everything I can think of to stop this downward slide." The other thing about parents is they live their life, do their best when it comes to their kids, and don't particularly like having their kid go out and create problems in their life. Most parents just want their kids to behave, do their best in school, and stay out of trouble.
If you were able to convince your mother you didn't get this thing started she may feel better about your judgment, but she would then believe you're a follower who can't leave a situation that may turn into trouble.
If you "admit" (whether its true or not) that you were the "ring-leader" she will think you are a troubled kid who always makes trouble for yourself and her.
No matter how she looks at the situation all signs to point to that its a good idea for her to do what she can to keep you in or away from the other kids for a while until she figures out if this type of trouble is likely to happen again. She may even believe its your age, and she may think if she can "get you through" to be another couple of years older you'll have gotten through some "trouble years".
If you can, talk candidly to her about what goes on, why you realize you need other friends, and why a smart kid like you has gotten "sucked in" to some of this type of stuff. Ask her what she's worried about (calmly). See if she'll talk about what she's thinking about you and this episode. If you find it too hard to bring up the incident you probably feel uncomfortable talking about to her, just wait things out. It will pass. Remember, too, your mother may have some serious worries or stress in her life, and this unnecessary foolishness crap is probably something she's "not in the mood to have to deal with".
Maybe you don't really deserve to be blamed for this, but, as you said, you hang around with kids who do this type of stuff; so you'll get sucked into their crap if you do hang out with them. This present privilege-withholding you're going through is an example.
(The toothpaste thing is enough to make you realize these other kids are really immature. Kids who are mature - even if they're only 15 or 16 - don't do that kind of foolish and sometimes destructive stuff.)
2006-10-18 10:47:17 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well stop hanging around people that has no meaning to your life
2006-10-18 10:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run away then she'll regret she punished you for stuff you didnt do
2006-10-18 10:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋