I stress myself out because I want to be happy..but it's not just that I want to be happy, I want my family to be proud of me. The one thing that could bring me down is knowing that I let my family down.
All of my aunt's and cousins and even my parents have had problems with my grandparents. They all either got pregnant during high school or right after they graduated and aren't married and just let their baby' s daddy's run off and have nothing to do with their kids. I've beat them all by actually graduating high school without having a kid,being married,or even being in jail. I just don't want to be stressed out. Every decision I make always goes back to whether or not it's something that would make them proud. I love my family and nothing would make me happier than them being happy,but I just want to let go and run free with out caring what they think. What would you do?
2006-10-18 10:00:50 · 14 answers · asked by Amber R 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
holy moly that was me!!! I was the ONLY one to finish school and I was the only one that stayed outta trouble no sex no kids no problems! But all that stress will get to you girl Im telling you! I am now 23 and because I decided i wanted a kid I didnt want to be like the family I married the father of my son and now I am on here begging for advise as to how to split from him!!! You need to step back and realize your family fed up not you. Don't think you need to carry their burdens along with your own. You do for you and thats it. Because really most of them don't even see you as the one that HAS to make it outta here. They are too busy seeing themselves. just be free and move far away from them. Cause believe it or not when they see you doing good they might try and bring you down. you dont need that! get away from them and it might even be okay not to speak for a while to them. once you got your feet on soild ground get back in touch
2006-10-18 10:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by tweedy778 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that you want your parents to be proud of you and you say that will make you happy. But your not happy? Regardless of what your parents want for you, it's more important you do whatever makes you happy. After all you said you've already graduated without having kids, being married, or in jail. Isn't that already an achievement they are proud of? You should be proud of that also. Now that you've graduated and your an adult you have ever right to go out and do whatever makes you happy. Because if you spend you life trying to make everyone else happy your just going to be miserable. Maybe your parents will still be proud of you if you choose whatever it is you want to do. If you did do what you wanted would it really be the end of the world? What could possibly happen, you make yourself happy? Or maybe it will be a mistake? Would that be the end of the world? There is always plenty of time to do the "right thing". So why not go out and explore whatever it is your want.
2006-10-18 10:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's really not about what the think or what anyone else thinks. it's about making decisions that won't effect you in a negative way in the long run. there is a reason why they wanted you to graduate and that is to be able to go to college and get a good paying job and not struggle. there is a reason why they didn't want you to be a single parent. because it's hard raising kids on your own and they out of love wouldn't want that type of stress for you. you have to be smart however and see that it's not about what they think it's about what would be the smart decision. i wise person consider his steps but a shrewd fails badly. don't be the type of person that doesn't care. because when you do that then you make bad decisions and you have a crappy life. trust me.
2006-10-18 10:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by mdbdyot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do what you think is right and keep your life moving in a positive direction. You already have made your family proud. If you always use good judgement than those types of negative things will not happen to you.
Just stop worrying about things. Life is too short to worry about tomorrow.
2006-10-18 10:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by crustedfilth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just let go, run free and be happy. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders and know right from wrong. Stop trying to make everyone else happy and think about your happiness.
2006-10-18 10:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by crazytxbartender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't spend your entire life trying too make your family happy. You have too make a life for yourself and any desisions you make, make them for YOU, not for your family. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders so I'm sure you will make the right desision about this. Your parents should be very proud of you. Take my advice and move on with your life and make desisions that will make you happy, you've earned the right too do this.
2006-10-18 10:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by Rose T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family was the same way. I was constantly stressing not about making them proud, but by not ending up like them. Finally, when I started caring less about winding up like them and focusing on myself and what I WANTED to do, I had fun, didn't get depressed like I used to, and found out what was best for myself.
2006-10-18 10:06:16 · answer #7 · answered by catch22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Amber you seem tobe more levelheaded than the rest of the clan. You know the right from wrong ,the good frombad and the happy fromunhappy. so for sure do wat your conscience tells you.be more pudent and wise. Target a goal that will bring you inner satisfaction. PURSUE PERSEVERE SET YOUR HEART AND FEEL FREE TO MAKE A MARK THAT WILL MAKE YOU AND YOUR FAMILY PROUD OF YOU.
2006-10-18 10:10:31 · answer #8 · answered by zelmacreado 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you need to do is make yourself happy before you make others happy there not living there life for you so stop living your life for them you must want to love yourself in order to love just like making yourself happy people will always see the wrong but that's life live for you and only you before you can live for them
2006-10-18 10:05:56 · answer #9 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 18:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋