I have a male friend that lives in N.C and is married to a crazy person..(she takes all kinds of meds). I know that it is very hard for a man to win. Does anyone have any Idea's on how he can get them... They are 4 and 2?
2006-10-18 09:55:16 · 17 answers · asked by Mrs. Getz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok this is a Friend and friend only..
Yes she is not a fit mother. He was out of town for like 2 days and had to call friends to go over and feed the kids dinner. She says all the time that she hates them and does not want them....
2006-10-18 10:04:30 · update #1
I got full custody of mine (also aged 2 and 4, at the time) in NC. This was years ago, but it is possible. He needs a good lawyer though.
2006-10-18 09:57:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sheik Yerbouti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off he is married to her so that would be hard to say she is unfit because if he thought that then why is he still with her? A father can take his children away from a mom ,but he has to show several signs that she is unfit and not capable of taking care of them. My sister in law is in years of fighting her husband for her kids and he has a lot of money and that's why I believe that the battle has gone on so long. It really depends on the situation of the couple. They will bring all sorts of stuff into this couples life like CPS and background checks they dig deep up everything when it comes to custody of children. Call a lawyer in the state he is in and tell them the situation and they can help you for what can be done. Good Luck......
2006-10-18 17:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by Cathleen Spencer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs to go to family court and have proof that the mother of his children is not capable of taking care of herself or the children.
It is very possible for him to get fulll custody. He needs to document everything he can with official papers. For instance if the cops are called to the house cuz she is sleeping and the kids are wandering outside, then get the paperwork on that. A judge needs offical proof that she is not a fit mother. The doctor that treats her might be able to witness about her issues.
It is easier now for a man to win than it used to be.
2006-10-18 17:31:04 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,
Tell the wife it is over and record the conversation on a mini recorder.
Be cold and direct. She will fly off the handle and most certainly threaten to do bodily harm to him. this is an expected emotion but certainly does not fly well when custody is considered.
A neighbor of mine did this successfully... He regretted it after because it was the wrong thing to do in his situation. The kids are back with the mother as he regretted how he handled it as it affected his children (playing tug of war with the child).
But it worked for the courts.
2006-10-18 17:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by rc9560 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not crazy, he's the loon that keeps loaded guns in his house with no gun locks on them, smokes pot, can't hold a steady job, etc. etc. And we've (she and I) allowed him visitation, but there is no way the judge is going to give him full custody until he cleans up his act. And even then, he has a bad temper, so we would not allow it. She is not crazy, you're just hearing one side of it. And frankly, its just not your business at all - why don't you go back to trying to tell your husband you're pregnant with "his" baby even though he has a vasectomy - you little whore.
2006-10-18 17:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by frank m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he needs to contact his attorney to sue for full custody and have her parental visitations supervised if she as crazy as you say. Often times in a divorce situation mental status is a nebulous area that judges will look at if the children are in danger with one parent or the other.
2006-10-18 17:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know but the dad would have to find a way to make the mother looked bad as a parent so the kids you go to him.
2006-10-18 17:02:11 · answer #7 · answered by The motorman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should be pretty easy. He needs to get a "nanny cam" and record what goes on at the house while he is gone. He needs to get all the evidence he can and use it in court. I know alot of men who have custody of their kids; my brother has custody of his daughter and her mom wasn't as bad as what you described. She was bad, but not that bad.
2006-10-18 17:06:50 · answer #8 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband got full custody of his. With a good attorney and $40,000 spent thus far...and getting ready to go up another $5000 or so, too.
2006-10-18 17:22:54 · answer #9 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer that specializes in family and custody cases. They do this sort of thing all the time.
2006-10-18 17:06:36 · answer #10 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋