I did get her name, I do have caller ID, I know where she works and when I told her that I was his wife, she apologized saying she didn't know he was married.
I know something is up. I'm deciding on whether or not I should go to where she works and talk to her.
We have a 10 yr old girl together. It hasn't always been a good marriage and it has been difficult dealing with 2 ex wives and 3 other children. I have given him the benefit of the doubt, but I'm still wondering??
2006-10-18 09:48:35 · 24 answers · asked by breezygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yeah, maybe you have it all wrong. but alas, he is a guy, and everybody knows we all lie all the time, cheat all the time, we're lazy, cheap,thoughtless, stupid, selfish, fat, abusive, violent, sneaky, obnoxious, immature, loud, ignorant, cowardly, scurillous, psychotic a**holes, bottom feeding greasy pigs........ whom you nice ladies chose with all your perfect judgement, brilliance and forsight to be in love with 'till the end of time.(I'm breaking into song while I write this) GOOD CALL, GIRLS!!!
2006-10-18 10:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by Raptor 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh yeah been there done that too. I called the number first. When the girl answered I asked " Yes did someone call "Brian?". She replied yes this is "Toni" and I know who you are. I told her this is Reanna his wife and you need to stop calling. She refused and basically called me a liar because he didn't inform her he was married. It was a mess but a mess I needed to know about and when this reached his ears he had nothing to say. He lied all up and down and ended up ending his friendship with her because I put him on the spot and called the girl again when he got home and asked why this girl is calling and under the impression I'm just a girlfriend. He yelled in the background so she could hear that he wanted his marriage. That told me she was not important enough to end his marriage and he quit talking to her and that was almost three years ago and I haven't heard from her since. I think she moved to another city.
2016-05-22 00:19:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart as well as your husband has given you reason to doubt. I would talk to him first, find out what is going on but keep a cool head. Nothing good ever came from fighting. If he denies it then pick up the phone right in front of him and ask for the woman. When she gets on the phone, say" Hi "insert her name here", I was just standing here talking to "insert his name here" and he cannot be a man and tell me what is going on. How bout you give me the scoop woman to woman." Id get to the bottom of it for sure, but do it in a civilized manner, there is absolutely NO reason for another woman that you don't know to call and speak with your husband. Going to where she works could get you arrested if the woman wants to be a ***** she could charge you with harrassment. Be strong, but cautious
2006-10-18 09:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by Amber L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't a need to go visit this woman. She has already told you that she didn't know he was married. This isn't her doing it is your husbands. She wouldn't have anyway of having his number if he had not given it to her. Unless it is on the check (if he paid with a check)
Tell your husband that you are not stupid enough to fall for his lies and you are very hurt to think that he thinks you are.
Ask him why he feels the need to see other women. If you want to work this out you will need to be willing to hear the answer. I am not justifying what he has done but I don't think people cheat for no reason. He is unhappy and you won't be doing yourself any favors by ignoring this.
However, there could be deeper issues but not knowing anymore than what you have said I'm not going to go there.
2006-10-18 09:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion is what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Have a male friend call the house and see how he responds to this.(someone your husband doesn't know of course) Go from there. but first be able to back up your info. go see this other woman. get as much info as possible so you can stand your ground when your husband denies it, which he will til the day he dies. Then say if you can do it, so can I. Maybe he'll change his mind on stepping out, especially if he wants to stay married to you.
2006-10-18 10:27:35 · answer #5 · answered by freak_bitch1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be worried too. A lot of women out there know what its like to have their hearts broken she probably would open up if you tried to speak with her and she knew how it was making you feel. Or you could confront your husband and tell him you talked with her and she told you everything (even if you never talked to her). I don't know if that would work but you could try it. I'd probably try option number one. I've done it. My sweetie was getting messages from a girl all the time that would say I miss you and crap and I called her and she swore to me they were only friends and he swore the same to me and so did all his friends. Its been a couple years since it happend and really they just tell eachother they miss eachother and Its weird but they are just friends. Hope all goes well. Good luck!
2006-10-18 09:59:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get the truth out of all of this, is to get both of them together and ask them both what is going on. And for her to say she didn't know he was married is because he has already done something. So if anyone is at fault it would be him not her. BUT then again.... she can be playing stupid too.. Trust me on that one. I know from experience. My ex was the same way and the ***** he was seeing knew everything! I sued her and got me some money in the process. :D So definitely confront them both.
2006-10-18 09:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by Bella Trinity 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, if he IS cheating, it is a REALLY stupid thing to give out your home number where your wife answers the phone. I'm willing to bet it is some kind of misunderstanding, and you're making a bigger deal out of it than it really is. Your husband could have give this "other woman" his work #, his cell #, his e-mail, and kept it a secret. Don't you think it would be a completely idiotic move to give his home #?
2006-10-18 10:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to confront the woman you have all the information in front of you need now all you have to do is believe. I know it is a kick in the gut to deal with a man with ex-wives and dealing with step-children and now he wants to cheat. Save yourself from further embarassment or humiliation because of your husband ways do not bother with the woman. Start watching and snooping on him and you will find the answers you need to believe.
2006-10-18 09:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow when will woman ever get it, a player is always going to be a player, the red flag should have been the two ex wifes, obviously there ex for a reason, there is no need to speak with this girl because it takes two to tango, and if she did not know he was married then obviously she is being led on, always go with your gutt instinct.
2006-10-18 09:56:09 · answer #10 · answered by John A 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would call to see if she was willing to meet me. I would want all her attention and time devoted to me plus I wouldn't want to cause a scene for her at work. It's not her fault, I would then talk to my husband to see what he has to say. I would want some evidence though before I talked to him.
I'm sorry you're going through this.
2006-10-18 09:57:00 · answer #11 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋