what if you have a child by someone but the daddy dosn't want to help tak care what should i do?

Answer 1

raise your child the best way you can .. never bad mouth the other parent and let the child grow up and find out on it's own that there dad was a dead beat..you can't force a relationship between the child and the father you can go through the district attorney and gtry and collect childsupport but other than that i would leave it alone and be the best mommy you can be.. GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

If you don't need him let him walk away... Trust!! It will relieve you of a lot of heartache and headache in the long run. Although every child deserves both parents if one is only taking it causes stress for the child as well. Child Support works but it only forces him to pay you money and money is not everything when raising a child. There is also the emotional support that is desired from the other parent for both the child and the mother. It is hard raising a child on your and it doesn't help if you have someone stealing your energy while you do it. If you are constantly putting a whole lot of concentration into why isn't he doing this and why isn't he doing that you are taking away from what you could be doing. Just hustle up and take care of you and yours. I wish someone would have told me... Cuase got to the point where i was just mad at him and i took him to court... and the CS that i get is little but it made my point and he upped his game... Yeah he pays that because he has to but he also comes and takes our daughter to have time with him for 2 weeks about ever few months. and that is hard for me but it is good for her. when/if she decides she doesn't want to do it anymore i will grant that wish but until she decides that she gets time with her dad and he loves the time that he spends with her now.

Answer 3

its very simple.take him to court and make him by law pay child support.Of course though money cant replace the love of a father but at leasst you and your child wont be in a financial pit.Then of course make sure that your child understands that its not his/her fault that his/her daddy isnt around.And if the daddy is in the child's life but just doesnt pay child support do not use the child to play games.To many people often tell the daddy they cant see the child because they dont pay child support.Thats not only punishing the dad but also the child.Don't get the child involve.Dont trash talk the father around or to the child.Handle the situation responsibly and legally and not by using the child as the game peice to get back at each other.

Answer 4

Im a single mother also and I am having the same problem. All I can suggest is for you to put him on child support. If you have given him chances to help you out and he doesnt, then he has to learn the hard way. As long as he is working, with child support, you are guaranteed to get financial support for your child. Now as far as taking care and spending time with your child, there is nothing you can really do. It will just be his loss.

Answer 5

You need to take him to court and get his wages garnished so that you can receive some type of child support. Don't bother feeling sorry or sympathetic towards him, if he didn't want a baby he'd have used a condom.

Find a decent and cheap lawyer in the yellow pages and set up an appointment. You'll need to act as quickly as possible. Get all the information about him thats available - his full name, social security number if possible, his place of employment, and any assets that he owns: car, house, etc.

Good luck!

Answer 6

You've got to do what women have been doing for years, take care of your child regardless! You knew when you had sex that there was a chance he wasn't going to stick around if you got pregnant (we all have that thought, whether we want to admit it or not). You've got to remember that you aren't just living your life for yourself anymore, anything you do or don't do affects your child. You have to be responsible and take care of your business. You can't get upset or depressed because he wants to be and a**hole and not take care of his responsibity.
Don't just sit back and do nothing about though, take him to child support and make the courts make him pay and do his part for your child or they will take away his freedom. You're right, you shouldn't have to do it alone, but women have been doing it for years. I did it myself for awhile until he pissed me off sooooooo bad that the next boring I got a speeding ticket on the way to the child support office.
You will know in your heart what the right decision is. If he's doing the best he can, then keep him out of CS, but he's not doing anything and won't hesitate to tell you that he's not going to do anything, then do all you can to make him have to at least pay for your child. The rest (and that too), you can do on your own. GOD bless and good luck!

Answer 7

Since he's not man enough to accept responsibility, you'll have to use lawyers and courts to force him to. Depending on where you live, there are different ways to force a deadbeat parent to pay up. In my area, for example, the government can garnishee the offender's wages.
Good luck, and I hope you find a real man to be the child's dad.

Answer 8

do the best you can and take care of your child by yourself. don't let the child know that his dad don't want to take care of them because it will have a negative affect on the child . if the dad doesn't care about his kid then he a jerk and you don't need a man like that in your life. try to provide your child with positive surrounding and when he old enough than you could let them know the truth.

Answer 9

Everytime you lay down with a "nice guy" you stand the chance of this happenning. Be prepared to do it yourself, but file for child support. A child deserves to be taken care of by oth parents, but unfortunately that's not always the case. Good luck to you!!

Answer 10

Go to the courts for child support. He will pursuade you to take a lesser amount if you don't. Your child deserves to be taken care of.