Is it normal that my 30 yr. old boyfriend doesn't get turned on anymore? It makes me insecure - sometimes I think it's me. We are very much in love, but seem to be so busy all the time. Just seems like in the beginning we made time. I never thought we would be 'that' couple that hardly ever has sex. Is this normal?
2006-10-18 09:43:39 · 15 answers · asked by BellaRia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Didnt mean that 30 is old!! Just don't want kids responding hehe
2006-10-18 09:50:17 · update #1
It's normal to have less frequent sex as the relationship matures, and if you're both really busy, there isn't a lot of time for intimacy. But you are unsatisfied and need to change things! Set aside time to unwind together, be romantic and let things happen naturally. If your minds are on the bills, your jobs or family problems, who is going to want to have sex? You need to get away from the stresses.
2006-10-18 09:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by wynterwood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL I said - WHAT? Over 30 is an "older" couple nowadays?
Well, we're an "older couple" I guess, I'm 32, he's 36. We just got married after a year and a half of dating/living together. I don't know if what you're describing is "normal" to others... But it's normal to us. We've never had sex terribly often, not even in the beginning, and it's been alright with both of us. We spend most of our free time together, and do a lot of other stuff; it's just sex is not exactly on the top of the list. It is probably not "normal" for the average 30-year-old newlyweds, tho.
2006-10-18 16:54:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a male 33 and would consider myself very normal with a regular drive.... being with someone for a length of time, living a normal life with daily stresses, can often make this happen... not sure why that when you are with someone for a long period of time and in a committed relationship that the sex life dips or falls off. People will tell you that it doesn't ..but it does...I wish it didn't but for the average it changes... there are always the exeptions though.....
2006-10-18 16:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by on2try 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to sound funny, but maybe if you spoke more to each other, about your feelings. It sounds like a lack of comunication, Spending time on here cant help the situation. Keep it closer to home, and away from strangers. Dont explore the world till you know your back garden.
2006-10-18 16:50:30 · answer #4 · answered by Nick n his Dog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not normal. He must be having some kind of problem that needs to be checked by an specialist. He seems to be busy because he does not want to face whatever problem he's got. Don't take it personally, talk to him and ask him if he needs professional help.
2006-10-18 16:50:08 · answer #5 · answered by Artguer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may be the result of a medical problem as simple as high blood pressure. Speak with him and suggest a check up.
2006-10-18 16:46:50 · answer #6 · answered by Ranger473 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation as you, be we are in our late 30s. It could be that he is just exhausted from work or stressed. It's not you. The best thing to do is just talk to him about it.
2006-10-18 16:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by crazytxbartender 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many variables that effect why a person is turned on or not. btw 30 isnt old.
2006-10-18 16:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,its normal.My husband is 39 years old and Im 22 years old.I really hate when he doesnt get turned on.
2006-10-18 16:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by hopeless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm like that, but when I have time to play with my wife there is alway something going on to stop.
Tell him how you feel. I'm sure he know how you feel and will come to a meeting of the mind.
2006-10-18 16:47:45 · answer #10 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋