Does self-improvement ever work?

Question

Or is our character solely determined by our genes?

Answer 1

The hypothesis that our character is determined SOLELY by our genes is straightforwardly DISPROVED by the evidence that some identical twins (by definition, people with the same genes) have differences of character from each other.

It doesn't take a gene-ius to observe that some people have changed a lot during their lifetime-to-date, for better or worse, while others seem much the same as they were 20 or 40 years ago.

In the psychotherapy/counselling profession it is often said that we learn ways of coping as small children with the world we find ourselves in, over which at that age we have little influence. The person-centred model, for example, says we adapt to the "conditions of worth" we are given by our parents and other influential figures. The transactional-analysis model says we create the "script" for our life, the basic judgments about ourselves and others that will guide us. These early-in-life influences will largely govern our character for the rest of life UNLESS we do something to change the pattern.

I beleive (and I say this because I am not a research psychologist with the funding to prove it) that MOST people who significantly improve their character compared with who they were in mid-to-late teens do so because of the positive influence of LOVE, experienced in one or more relationships in their lives. I don't mean soppy love and I certainly don't mean sex, though both may or may not be present in a genuinely loving relationship. I mean love that is at least some of the time pure, unconditional. This can come from spiritual development (direct experience of God's love), from a marriage or similar partnership, from close friendship(s), or, at least to start with, in the counselling relationship.

Correspondingly, I bet that if it were studied, deteriorations in character during adult life would mostly be in people who had developed more FEAR, for example after trauma(s) or losses.

"Love is letting go of fear" (that's the title of a self-improvement book by Jampolski) and how you get there is much less important than that you get there.

Answer 2

Yes , It really does , every Human Being can get great benefit from "Self Improvement" just list the things you want to improve , Ie. Your Physique , your Appearance , Self Presentation , Your ability to Communicate with others ? just List it and start to put it into operation , write your own Programme and Begin . But - But - But , It,s as everything in Life , you have to really want to Do it for yourself --- No one will do it for you , what you don,t Know do a bit of research to Help yourself ,Make it enjoyable , not a chore , you will soon be Amazed what you will soon begin to achieve Good Luck with the "New You" -- Promise you --It Does Really Work -- it,s up to you .....It Starts When you Wake Up

Answer 3

human beings make judgements known that impression their existence. Consciously or subconsciously their lives are replaced. What "spurs" a individual to construct a miles better existence ought to be their own happiness. A e book, although crammed with examples" can no longer make you chuffed. Base what you do each and on a daily basis on convalescing your way of existence and good stuff will stick to. only keep in mind a great element is probably no longer great to you appropriate away so take each and each small element and cherish it as an experience to extra beneficial your existence.

Answer 4

We all have the power to improve ourselves with determination and hard work.

Answer 5

No genes is a basis but character changes with social interaction and events that shape our personality and how we perceive them.

Answer 6

Worked for me

Answer 7

Anyone can improve, but it doesn't happen overnight. You have to work to succeed.

Answer 8

of course it works..you improve yourself and you gain confidence,which in turn makes you feel great.

Answer 9

Yes but, it doesn't work on you. You work on it.