Is this Bad>?

Question

So I am married, have no intentions of leaving my wife OR cheating on her, but I find I love ot flirt with women on line til the point of them wanting to meet up with me for sex. I mean I must be very slick with my words because most of them after a day of chatting want to meet up and have sex ( i usually go into a very descriptive essay of how I have sex and what I do to women during sex).. its not cyber sex its not over msngr just email

But in some twisted way .. I feel like I am getting back at all the women in the past that either wouldn't show me the time of day or hurt me in some way. But I am not sure thats it.

I think i'm just bored at work and have nothing better to do.. who knows.

Answer 1

First, you are cybering. Second, you are cheating. Nowadays, cyber sex can be cheating too, although a lot of people would debate this.

If you are doing something that you would feel ashamed of if your wife found out, then you are doing something you shouldn't be doing. You need to stop.

Answer 2

:) I am not sure why you are asking this, but I am going to assume your intentions are good. Short answer? Yes. It's bad. You are "playing with fire", and it would DEVESTATE your wife if she found out about this activity. I mean, how does SHE know you aren't hooking up with these women? Secondly, it is bad because these other women have feelings too, and rejection always hurts, even if you don't KNOW the person. I think it's insightful of you to suspect you have some motive underlying your behavior. Stuff like this can rip marriages apart. If that isn't what you want, seek help. From a psychologist. Maybe you have some "issues" to talk through. Good luck, though. And quit being naughty.

Answer 3

The answer is Yes. This is not good for you or your marriage.

You are cheating whether or not your accept that you are. However, if your wife has full knowledge of this activity and is OK with it, then it is fine. Somehow, I highly doubt that is the case.

I suggest that you get a different job. If you have that much time on your hands perhaps you could be doing something more productive mentally and financially.

The fact is that you a just bored. You are playing with fire and will eventually get burned. Now go find something else to do with yourself before we see you on Dateline NBC.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Some women would say you are already cheating, emotionally. Would this hurt your wife's feelings? If so, I think I would stop it pretty quickly. It sounds to me like you are boosting your ego a little bit. You were rejected in the past and now you are doing the rejecting. If being that descriptive is enjoyable to you, why can't you do this for your wife & try to make you & your wife's relationship more exciting. I really enjoy it when my husband messages me "naughty" emails in the middle of our day. It sure makes it more interesting when we get home!

Answer 5

Jim, I am sorry to tell you this, but I think you know all ready-you are cheating. What would your wife who you have no intentions of leaving would say about your little games you play. I don't think she would find to much humor in them them, do you?

This is cheating, and you got to realize that. Anything you do want your wife to see, read, or hear-is cheating. You might think its fun and you get off on doing this, but what would the wife think? Respect your wife enough, and drop this now. You love to flirt, flirting is ok to a certain point. But when your women friends are wanting to meet, and you are talking about what you do in bed-then buddy you have gone way to far...

If you have no intentions of leaving your wife or cheating on her, your best bet is to stop this behavior right now. You might have to leave her, she's going to leave you! Think about how you would feel if she was doing this with guys on the internet. Wouldn't want that would you, then you don't do it. Simple!

Jim, if you treasure your wife and your marriage, start deleting these women from your life right now. Or you maybe without her.

God bless us all.................

Answer 6

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IT IS VERY BAD !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If she don't know that you are doing this . Then i might end your marriage. Cause i would leave my husband if he was doing what you were doing. You know if she doesn't know . Do you know how bad that is going to hurt her. Do you want to hurt her. If you don't you need to quit that. What would you do. If somehow one of those girl on the Internet gets a hold of your real name and address and arrived at your front door and your wife answer it. What would happen next. The girl will ask does so an so lives here. Cause i meet him over the Internet. The girl from the Internet might get pi-st cause she didn't know you were married and she gets back at you and tell your wife that she is your lover. You need to think really hard if you want to continue your dirty chat on the Internet. Cause it will come back and bite you on the butt.

Answer 7

I've read some of your past questions. Jim, you're confused all together!!!! Ugh can you say "SEX PREDATOR!" Anyone who reads your so-called "suave lines" in your descriptive essay of how you have sex can categorize you as a sex predator. Grow up and stop your fabrications. A man who has to write essays of his love-making is not a man at all. It only means they're looking for attention and if that's your case, lock up in a jail would do you well!!!!!!

Answer 8

ask your wife how she feels about it. You never know, maybe it something the two of you could get into together, maybe it would turn her on hearing what youd do to other woman, seeing how badly these other women want you. Then turn around and do all those naughty things to her instead. But if shes not cool with it, you have to stop, or else your hurting someone youre supposed to love.

Answer 9

Yeah thats pretty bad...how crushed would your wife feel if she found out. Even if it is for fun, not only that but it could cause some girls to turn into stalkers and hunt you down. You need to get over those girls from the past and realize that everyone gets their hearts broken. Dont let this ruin your marriage.

Answer 10

I think you need to start using some of that dirty talk on your wife! It's not "technically" cheating, but think about how your wife would react if she knew you were doing this? And she'd never believe that you werent meeting up with them. You gotta stop. I believe you that it's all fun and games, but you're going to end up hurting your wife.