if ur bf broke up wit u and says he wants 2 have sex wit u and he is single again what do u do?

Question

i am 14 and he'll be 15 on the 27.we have only been toghter for 2
days.but, we trust each other and care about each other.and our feelings.he said he wants to have sex.but, i know better.but, i love him.i want to be with him.

thanx for all ur advise...but,he was the first boy friend i had.i KNOW NOT TO SLEEP WITH HIM.but, its hard to see him with other girls.

Answer 1

ask your parents. they will tell you what to do.

Answer 2

Um which part of 14 don't you understand. You are a kid enjoy it while it lasts. My friend had a kid at 15, she used condoms and was on the pill and she got pregnant. She is now on welfare and lives with her mom and dad and she is 27. Plus she has 6 kids. Her BF said he loved her and as soon as she gave in he dumped her the next girl. Her rep was ruined. He is not worth it. Wait until you can make a mature decision, you decided the time, Not some boy. Don't give it up, it is not worth it and to be honest the first 20 times you have sex SUCKS. I have been there.

Answer 3

He broke up with you for a reason girl. Why would he want to have sex with you (after) yall broke up? What does he take you for? Do you have 'hoe' written on your forehead? He won't be the first boy to like you and not the last. 2 days is not long enough to know a dog well - let alone a boy. Don't do it. It ain't worth it. Wanna get pregnant? Wanna catch a disease? Cause either way, you'll end up having to tell your parents, go to a doctor or hospital where strangers will have to look up all in your business. You make that decision. Good luck.

Answer 4

I advise you to stay out of the situation. Tell him no. You may love him and want to be with him. But it's teen love, and teen love usually won't last. And of course you are 14 and 15, sex isn't acceptable at the ages hun. If he broke up with you, and still wants sex, I think he is probably using you, because that's what my ex boyfriend did to me, and it turned out a day later after I rejected having sex with him, that he had a new girlfriend. It's a bad situation, and I don't think you want to get into it. And you had been together for 2 days, not even long enough to build that must trust let alone to find you love him.

Answer 5

There is no way you can trust someone and have intense feelings only after two days. If your boyfriend really loves you then he will respect you and not force sex on you. You are only 14 don't tie yourself down so soon. There is too much that could happen if you have sex now. True love is knowing to wait for the right one, not the first one that comes around. Good luck sweetie I know its a hard choice but I am sure you will make the right one for you.

Answer 6

First of all you are both under-age.......
You are so not ready to have sex with someone you have only known 2 days... there is no way you can really care about someone in that short space of time.
Where are your morals???? Having sex with him just for kicks!!!! ahhhhh..... I don't know what you are thinking...Do you not have any self respect... A guy doesn't love you just because you have sex with him... You are giving it away for free, no emotion , no love , no mutual respect.... this is very bad for your self-esteem..
He wants to use you and that is it. If it isn't you , it will be someone else...
If you want something to love get a pet... Love is a bond that takes a very long time to build.
You sound like you are very young and need to grow up some more before you step into the spotlight of having sexual relations..
I am so sorry that you feel so little respect for yourself....
Don't sell yourself short.... Sex is not love.....

Answer 7

Maybe I'm reading your question wrong. It seems like you're saying that he broke up with you and still wants to have sex. How can that be if you've only been together 2 days? Maybe you're saying that you've only been apart for two days?

I'm not one of those adults who preach to children about having sex too early because I remember how much pressure I faced with sex from my peers, as a teen. At 30, I am a very open, very honest person about my sexual habits and philosophy. I can tell you from experience that although when you're 14, while I'm sure you enjoy sex, I don't think you've learned enough about yourself to be having sex with a partner. It's not about your age but about your mindset. You shouldn't love your boyfriend more than yourself and if you're having sex with him AFTER he broke up with you (basically telling you that he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you) you're not showing that you have much pride in yourself or your sex. You are allowing him to get the idea that he has some sort of control over you. I'm sure he knows he hurt you by breaking up. He isn't suggesting that you get back together. He didn't even slip up and reveal an inner thought that he still wanted to be with you. He's smart. You need to be also. No need to go to him with "we have to be together for me to have sex with you" because his personality shows that he's the type to tell you what you want to hear rather than what he feels. Then again, he was smart enough to mention sex without committment so he could just be mean and intentionally try and hurt your feelings.

Your best bet would be to leave this guy alone. Don't let his confusion, if there is any, be yours. And I hate to sound preachy but you really, really should get to know yourself before you let someone else know you intimately. You have plenty of time to experiment. A lesson is best learned when you've at least studied the material. Empower yourself. You should know what alternatives there are to sex, self control, and birth control before having sex again. No one is going to take care of these things for you, in fact, you'll find yourself being taken advantage of either emotionally or even physically, more often than not if you don't.

Answer 8

Don't. If he really wants to be with you, then he will wait. Why did he break up with you in the first place? Was it because he wanted you to give in and you wouldn't? You need to think about the consequences. What if you get pregnant? What if he decides to dump you again after he gets what he wants? He sounds like a selfish guy. Just thinking about what you can do for him and not about your feelings at all. How can you really trust someone that breaks up and then comes back just to have sex. Just be friends. If it is really meant to be, it will happen when you are ready, but please don't sleep with him just to get him back and keep him.

Answer 9

Please don't do that. This guy broke up with you and now is trying to take advantage of your body. Plus trust me if you have sex at your age you'll never grow emotionally and psychology like other girls.. in the bad way of course. Ask your mom (I'm serious) she's your mom, ok, but she's a woman and she knows a lot better than you and I do :) Ps I'm only 20 , and I never had sex (yup yup I'm still young !)

Answer 10

Okay, I don't mean to sound harsh, but he probably broke up with you because you wouldn't have sex with him. Then when he realized that the other girl (assuming there was one) wouldn't have sex with him, he came back to you and asked you to have sex with him. He didn't say he wants to get back together, he just wants sex, and he's trying to pressure you into doing so. Leave him alone. If he loved you, he wouldn't have broken up with you after only two days (how do you trust someone like that?), and he certainly wouldn't be trying to pressure you into doing something you're not ready for.

Answer 11

Um. Rule #1: Never have sex until you're in college. Rule #2: Men usually dump women 3 days after having sex. "Been there, done that." Rule #3: Tell your mother that you're asking these questions on the internet so that she can smack your a$$ back to doing homework.