I've never had a Orgasms?

Question

I hear woman all the time talk about
having an orgasms and I've never had one(at least I don't think so),
but they say you'll definetly know.
Is something wrong with me?

Answer 1

Poor you!

Answer 2

nope... nothing wrong at all... every woman is different. there are many books out that can help you with techniques to give yourself an orgasm (alone is much easier then with a partner until you're more familiar with your body). i would suggest "Satisfaction, the art of the female orgasm".

what an orgasm technically is is the sexual organs become increasingly aroused (usually through clitoral or internal stimulation) and the blood flow centers on the sexual organs. at the point of orgasm the muscles contract causing the blood to be dispursed back to the rest of the body in one big rush (that's the part that feels the best).

practice on yourself alone using your fingers or toys and experiment with what feels good and what doesn't at your own pace at a time when you won't have interruptions, don't wait until right before you go to bed because your body will be tired to start with and it will take more effort... try an afternoon bath or shower to relax (with the door locked fo course) or in your bedroom leaning up against your pillows. using a mirror may help too.

good luck and most importantly enjoy yourself.

Answer 3

Orgasm difficulty is a very common problem for many women, usually after childbirth or for those on birth control, although younger women and women of all ages can also experience the problem. The causes range from some type of physical or emotional trauma, such as damage to the nerves of the sexual organs or excessive anxiety. Overuse of vibrators can also cause low sensitivity leading to orgasm difficulty. Hormonal imbalances also results in difficult arousal and the lack of sexual urge and orgasm difficulty.

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Answer 4

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
Some girls "get off" easier than others.
You never know, those women who talk & bragg about their orgasm may be lying to look good.
You can go to womens magazine websites e.g. Cleo and you'll find there are tips to enhance your chances of an orgasm.
Without going into too much detail but the chances of an orgasm can also depend on the position :)

Answer 5

Many women do not have orgasms. You should talk to your doctor and do some research on it. It could be your partners and the positions you are doing it in. Experiment a little with them and alone until you find something that works. It's frustrating but worth it. If that still does not work, you may need to go see a sex therapist/doctor.

Answer 6

Not many women can get an orgasm from penetration alone. You may be able to orgasm from stimulation of the clitoris, if not try stimulation of both the g-spot (a few inches deep on the top wall of your vagina) and the clitoris. Guys are really bad at finding the g-spot. Even some women get off from anal sex. If none of this works you should see a specialist. You may have a sexual dysfunction.

Answer 7

Believe me when you have one you'll know. It is perfectly normal for girls to not have orgasms when they are young. Women reach their sexual peak in their thirties whereas men reach it at 17. Everyone is different though. I've been having them as long as I can remember, even before I knew what they were. But I'd say you are perfectly normal and that it will happen someday when you're ready.

Answer 8

I used to have a friend who was in her early 40's and never had an orgasm unless she masturbated. To her, it was not trusting the man enough to "let go" and "lose control" in having an orgasm. Yes, you will know when you've had one.

Answer 9

let me just say this....if you're not sure whether you've ever had an orgasm...then you never have. believe me you will know when it happens. women should NEVER have to fake it. if your man isn't pleasing you then show him how, if he still won't do it then find a new man.

Answer 10

Not to scare you, but there is a small percentage of women who are incapable of orgasm. Trust me, I'm one of them.

Answer 11

That's totally normal. You shouldn't wait for a man to do it for you. Take some time and explore yourself and have fun.