my mate is cheating on her boyfriend with this lad i grow up with her boyfriend but i dnt want 2 be the one to tell him because i dnt want 2 hurt him but if i dnt she jst carry on he is like a bro 2 me and he tells me he love her but she jst dnt understand she brake his heart! what should i do? tell him or not?
2006-10-18 09:08:05 · 24 answers · asked by babyboo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i'd keep qiet cos you'll only lose friends and get the blame for interfering.
2006-10-18 09:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Play dumb or fess up. If you care more about him than her and you've got your facts 100% straight then perhaps have a chat with her first - telling her how much he loves her and what it would do to him if he found out. always better coming from her, or she could drop the other guy. Best not to be the bearer of bad news in situations like this as you could end up losing both of them.
2006-10-18 10:38:31 · answer #2 · answered by Oracle Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to continue being friends with him once he figures it out, yes. If he finds out you've kept it from him when she finally slips up, you probably won't be friends anymore.
Bottom line is, which one do you want to be friends with in the end.
The only possible solution where you won't lose a friend would be if you convince her to come clean. Let her know that he loves her and that he thinks she lives him, and tell her that you really think she should be honest with him and not mess around with his heart. If she bitches you out about it or tells you to keep quiet (and thus proves that she's not worth of your friend) then tell him.
2006-10-18 09:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Difficult for you for sure. Have you told your friend that you don't like the way she is treating a good man? I am thinking here and not all that sure what I would do in your situation but sort of feel I would talk to the girl and tell her how I feel but not tell the boy.
2006-10-18 09:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, personally, wouldn't tell him, but I think if you talked to your friend and asked if SHE could be the one to tell him, it'd be a little bit better because then you wouldn't have to worry about ruining your friendship if you spilled her secret to her boyfriend when she didn't want you to. No one likes to be cheated on, especially when they don't even know they're being cheated on, and if she really and truly cares for him, she'd be upfront about it and tell him the truth. He deserves to know. It was her fault, and maybe despite the fact that she cheated on him, they can work things out.
2006-10-18 09:13:24 · answer #5 · answered by Victoria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If y'all are that close, you should say something. He's only being hurt more by you keeping this information inside. Because when he does find out, and that you knew all along, he'll be angry with you! I would find a gentle way to let him down, but then also he needs to see it for himself, so he doesn't just think you're talking s***.
2006-10-18 09:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How good a mate is she?????
I would pretend that someone else knows about it, and they have told you they are gonna spill the beans to him........obviously don't say who, otherwise you will get them into trouble if you make a name up........
Say she has a choice to end it with this other bloke or end it with him so he has chance to move on and find decent lass........
Or send him a anonymous letter, type it so no one will it no it is you and don't tell a sole what you have done just in case they tell someone...................
2006-10-18 09:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by xXx Orange Breezer xXx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you know about whats going on and make sure she realises how you feel and how it'll effect him if he finds out. You could then try and persuade her to choose one or the other. A good way is to make her think you've told him, but that doesn't always work out perfect!
2006-10-18 09:10:17 · answer #8 · answered by Mark C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say that u talk to your mate. she needs to see and know how she is humiliating and hurting this guy shes going out with. make her see that he cares greatly for her and tell her that is isnt fair on him. tell her that she needs to choose one of them, and if not, neither of them. Make sure she knows that not everything in life can be taken in two's.
2006-10-18 09:13:54 · answer #9 · answered by LifeLiveLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow this is a tricky kind off question i would leave it for now this could blow way out off hand and you may end up losing a good Friend ime sure they will find out in the end good luck.
2006-10-18 09:59:54 · answer #10 · answered by skye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him!
Tell him!
Tell him!
People who cheat aint got the balls to be single, he'll get over it and wont make the same mistake again.
2006-10-18 09:18:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋