Should I continue to make my wife wear high heels?

Question

I have been with my wife for 1 year now & dated for about 10 years before. Throughout our relationship I have told her how I loved her in very high heels. I just love how she looks in them and especially love the comments I get on her appearance from both men and women. I have always picked out her shoes for her and of course always buy between 3” – 4” heel.
The problem is that after 1 year of marriage she is starting to complain about wearing them from time to time. She tells me she feels pressured to wear them everyday. But for many years before we were married she wore them without question. I feel that she was just trying to please me and now that she is married she can forget about the heels.
Our fights are always over heels. If I suggest a shoe for her to wear out, she will get mad over the heel high. But then only after a fight will she suggest that she would like a new pair of heels.

Should I continue to pressure her on wearing high heels?

Thanks for the quick response,
I never realized I was so shallow of a person. Your responses are a wakeup call! I guess a combination of a shoe fetish and my love of hearing good comments of my wife’s appearance are my problems. I receive such a rush when I get comments on her appearance. Women tell me they are jealous of how good my wife walks in heels and men tell me they wish they had a wife that wore such high heels. I’m just realizing that I insist that she wear heels to work and in public to make myself look good. I know I’m going to get slammed but, there are days that after she wears 4” heels all day at work I insist that she continues to wear a pair out to the groceries store.
That would make like 10 to 12 hours in 4” heels for the past 11 years……….. I just never realize the problem was me. I’m not a bad person I love my wife but I have to deal with this problem before she gets tired of it. Thanks again for the reply and please continue to post messages.

Answer 1

Have you ever tried wearing high heels...especially 4 inch heels? They are definitely not the most comfortable shoe. Instead of pressuring her, let her wear what she wants and she might just surprise you and start wearing the heels as a treat for you on special occassions...without you having to even ask! Nobody should have to wear high heels every day. Don't pressure her and see what happens.

Answer 2

As a guy who chooses to wear high heels over other footwear, making this choice is a personal matter. Pressuring someone else to wear anything is violating their individual stewardship over their personal life. Although society has the tradition of such pressuring, it still hasn't negated the fact that it's wrong and it's against the natural order of how such matters are suppose to work. One person doesn't have the ability to be another person which makes all personal choices, decisions only that person should make. Many men have chosen to shave their head for a number of reasons. If they were forced into this activity, then it would have been a form of bullying or enslavement. I hope we as individuals can get past the idea that we know what is best for everyone and therefore they should follow our lead, no matter what their perspective is.

Answer 3

Ok...as a woman, I can say that high heels ARE NOT COMFORTABLE! In fact, most of them are horrible. It's ok if you have a high heel fetish, but don't FIGHT about it! She probably didn't complain because she knew how much it meant to you to wear high heels, but after 11 YEARS of it, I'm thinking her feet are getting tired, and she's starting to get older.

Why don't you just ask her to wear them on special occasions, not just everyday? If you only ASK her to wear them occasionally, she may not have as big of a problem with it. If this is causing a big problem in your relationship though, I think you need to let the high heels go. That's not an excuse for a relationship to break up after 11 years.

Answer 4

If you were that much in love with the high heels, you should have married the high heels. Marriage is give and tak. I would NOT continue to poressure your wife into wearing high heels, if she prefers something else. I would not make my lady do such a thing, because I love her, and care about how she feels about things.

Answer 5

Why do you have to put pressure on your wife to wear high heels. Do you feel embarrassed if she does not wear them. Or do you imagine without high heels she does not look as good. She should wear flat comfortable shoes during the day otherwise she will end up with alot of foot problems. It makes me think you are very impracticable and shallow. It should be up to your wife to wear high heels if she wants to.

Answer 6

My first thought was to say this...
Why would you MAKE your wife do anything. Are you or partner or her controller?

Then once I read the rest of it I still stand by my initial thought. And add this...

She probably did just wear them all those years to please you. Which was her bad. If she really didn't like them she should have been herself and if you didn't love her for being herself then you are only loving the heels.

If you value your wife and not just the heels I would stop putting preasure on her to wear them. Even if she did really like wearing them they can physically wear on a woman's body. They may not be as comfortable now as they once were for her to wear.
I personally never could wear them. I liked how they looked but they hurt something aweful. I paid something like $50 for a pair once to please my bf (long time ago) He loved them but they ended up staying under the table the whole time we were dancing. And I never wore them again.

I can't imagine why someone would fight over something so trivial as high heels. If you truly value heels over your wife then I would suggest seeking therapy.

Answer 7

Not unless you are willing to cope with all the complications of later life associated with high heels. ie. bad back, bunions, arthritis. Does she make you do anything you don't want to do? A marriage involves understanding. Understand that she wishes to wear lower heels once in a while and respect that. I am sure she will still wear the heels once in a while just to please you, but not if she is pressured.

Answer 8

You shouldn't have any say in what she wears - she can wear flats during the day and maybe heals for you at night. Heals as SO BAD for your feet. They cause bunions and hammer toes not to mention pressure on ankles and knees and hips... but the time your woman gets older he feet could be so nasty from the above you wont want her feet anywhere near you. These problems get worse with age so let her where what she wants to. You wear them for a day and see how that works for you.

Answer 9

Maybe you should just settle for her wearing the really high heels to bed. I would go insane if I wore them everyday but I do enjoy them when I'm trying to seduce someone.

Answer 10

Mr Jazzman, The Year Is 2006. We don't live in the Victorian Times. Let your Missus choose her own footwear, heels are
great for an evening out, but not for everyday use, plays havoc
on you legs, back, most of all your feet, so give the poor lass
A BLOODY BREAK.
Goodbye.
Lain.