To have sex in a relationship when your dating and not wanting to get pregnant?and not come out looking like a hoe?Just curious my bf and i have been together almost three months and he is not used to waiting.I am 18 and he is 22 so it's legal we both got tested to make sure we are clean and since i have only had one partner he does not want to condom. I am on the pill but my family has a history with it not working all the time . How to convice him to use a condom. I am scared not to use one.
2006-10-18 08:57:51 · 12 answers · asked by Jackie P 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If he claims to love you, he will respect your worries and want to keep you happy, and jump into that condom with no problem. If he doesn't, his love doesn't go that deep. You deserve better.
2006-10-18 09:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a spin for you... Let's say you do it his way and don't use a condom, but you get pregnant. Do you honestly, in your heart of hearts, think this guys will stick around to raise a child with you? Considering his resistance to abide by your one simple wish (seriously...why's he making a big deal out of using a condom, anyway?) I'd seriously consider how into you he really is. He obviously has little regard for your concerns. Think seriously about this before you have sex with him. Sex should be fun. You should do it because ou want to do it, not because your boyfirends is getting impatient. And three months is not that long of a time for him to wait. If he wants to have sex with you, make him wear a condom. If he cares for you, he'll do it and stop being such a baby.
2006-10-18 09:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be scared not to use one. It is very simple-tell him if he wants in your pants he has to wear a condom EVERY TIME. NO EXCEPTIONS.
just because you have only had one partner he doesn't want to use a condom....how many has he slept with? did you actually see his test results or are you just taking his word for it? What happens if he decides to cheat and catches something and then passes it to you? DO NOT TAKE NO FOR ANSWER-USE A CONDOM EVERY TIME-are you really ready to be a parent or face having an abortion? or even worse getting HIV?
2006-10-18 09:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by rwl_is_taken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a condom shouldn't b an option. treat the subject as if it's not even worth discussing because HE WILL use a condom if he is going to have sex with u. be willing to wait until he comes around. have some self respect and if he puts up a fight just walk out.
2006-10-18 09:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by confused mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that your family does not have great sucess with just the pill. Tell him that the chances of you getting pregnant are higher than another women, and he could end up being a father if he does not want to use a condom. Tell him the truth and be blunt.
2006-10-18 09:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not have sex with him unless he agrees to wear a condom. If he loves you, you shouldn't have to convince him AT ALL. He should be more than happy, and if he doesn't want to be a dad right now, he should offer to!
Even if he agrees that a condom is no problem, please don't have sex until you are 100% ready and into it. It will make it such a better experience!
2006-10-18 10:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by Emily O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's going to use you like a Kleenex and toss you, Sugar:
"Sure I love you baby - now take off your panties".
"Whoops! You're pregnant? Listen, I didn't really love you and I have a train to catch - see you!"
Wake up, get smart and lose him; that or be another young mother on welfare. If you think life is hard now, wait until you're 20 and have a one-year old.
By the way, it takes HIV 6 months to show up on tests. Unless he was on a desert island for the six months before he got tested, he may have it. If he's "not used to waiting" (ie, he dips his wick every chance he gets), he's at risk.
2006-10-20 05:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about your family history. Then tell him that your to young to have a baby. Then say you want to double up with the pill and a condom to make sure, if he says no, then he doesn't respect you and your need to be safe.
2006-10-18 09:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by Tia Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, you tell him 'if you don't wear a condom, we won't be having sex'. If he can't be respectful of that, he isn't a good guy and you need to let him go. You said 'he is not used to waiting', that does not say good things to me about the quality of sexual partner you have picked. I wish you the best but please have your eyes wide open about this.
2006-10-18 09:12:23 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you will not have sex with him unless you use a condom i understand both of you are clean but still if your not ready to have a baby be safe and use the condom if he doesnt understand then he really doesnt care about you.
2006-10-18 09:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by chunkybooty20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋