Basketball coach ruining fun of the game for my daughter?

Question

My daughter plays 6th grade basketball.She is a great player, but the coach will only let the starters play.?
The coach has his "favorite players" with the big names. The rest of the team sits on the bench. My daugher is the only one on the team that can make a lay up and that can handle the ball. I have spoken to him in a nice manor to see if i was missing something. However he just tells me that she isnt good enough, yep, he actually said that. This is a girl that played on the B team at one of her games and stole the ball three times in a row and took the ball down court for a lay up making a total of 6 points within just a few minutes. The starters, im sorry to say, arent really good. They cant shoot and cant handle the ball and they do not hustle. What can i do to help make basketball fun again for my daughter and the other teammates that never play. Short of strangling the coach. P.S. One of the players mother is on the school board so needless to say her child starts and is never taken out of the game.

In case i forgot to mention it, this is a school team she plays for.

Answer 1

This is unfortunate but it may be an excellet opportunity for you to teach your daughter how to behave in a situation like this (keep with the team you committed to regardless of the coach). I would also not feed into her frustration (or be the cause of it). Maybe there is another league she can join at the same time or look forward to another one with a better coach. I suspect she would love to spend some extra time with her playing hoops and it might take the edge off her current "bad" experience. Sorry to hear about it though.

Answer 2

Dear Sir,

While I am sure this is really hard situation for you and your daughter. I would first stick with the team, and try to encourage your daughter as much as a possible. Though, as a parent while this is probably very very frustrating to see. Honestly, it may not help to be always talking about it and also so negatively especially around your daughter. One thing you should teach and show your daughter first how to respect her coach, second that no matter how he is acting or doing he is still the coach and it's his decision.

Though in make things possible, I would approach the coach one more time, and really sort of corner him and ask some serious questions.

You had mentioned that your daughter in the B game did some great things. This is great, and sounds very good, but no matter how you look at it sir I am sorry but it was a 6th grade girls B basketball game. Don't get me wrong, I am not discrediting your daughter, but I am just trying to be fair of what I am reading. The coach is the one that sees your daughter all the time in practice and all the other girls. So maybe in practice against the A team she is not doing as well as other players.

I would suggest to approach and ask the coach. What is it actually that your daughter needs to improve on to get her playing more minutes on the A team. Or ask what your daughter really needs to work on in practice and show him that she can be a great player that you say she is! What is he actually seeing in practice that makes her not good enough, please have him clearly explain everything in detail so you can in return work on these things this summer or during this season.

one more question to be thinking of is your daughter playing consistent. This is one really big factor in coaches minds. Meaning is your daughter one quarter stealling the ball and scoring 6 points in minutes and then two minutes later she is turning the ball over 2 times in a row or something such as this. This is one major key factor in all levels for coaching decisions.

Answer 3

Unfortunately until your daughter gets to a grade level with a different coach, this team probably won't pan out. If you have other parents who feel the same way, you may want to discuss it with the athletic director or principal. In school sports, the coach chooses his "best" team. It could be political and he's doing things that are satisfying the current political regime. YMCA's are great for youth basketball, their philosophy is everybody plays. I was a program director at a YMCA and I loved that philosophy. It allows kids to play and have fun doing so.

If she truly wants to have fun playing again there are really two options, 1) Go to a YMCA; 2) If she is really that good, she can continue to outplay the starters in practice. Hopefully, the hustle and hard work proves to this coach what she can do. If nothing else, her next coach will notice and love the attitude, hustle and determination. Keep your chin up. Good luck!!

Answer 4

I think you should start looking into another team. This isn't going to get any better with the coach because it sounds like he's a pretty stubborn person. Whats important is that your daughter has fun playing basketball, not that she's on a specific team.

Also, you should not reccomend this team to anyone else. You should complain about it and really show people that getting their child on this team is a recipe for disaster, and eventually, word will get around that its a bad team to play on and it will probably not do well.

No coach should single any player(s) out or play favorites. Everyone should get a chance to play regardless of their ability and any coach who won't let a team member play is not a good coach.

I hope this helped. :-)

Answer 5

first off that is just plain UNFAIR!! My sister played on her bball team and she didnt start at all. well, I really think that you should talk to the principal if its a school team, and then if that doesnt work then PULL YOUR DAUGHTER OFF THE TEAM! bball should be about playing and having fun, not bench-warming and wondering when youll EVER get to play.
PS the YMCA teams are supposed to be GREAT

Answer 6

Don't let her quit! It will give the high school girl's coach the impression that she's a 1)a quitter and 2)a crybaby. Tell her to "tough it out" because she WILL get recognized because of her talent.

Answer 7

dude u gotta tell the coach of go over to him and be like ur such a bad coach even a retard would be better than u then send ur girl to the ymca

Answer 8

if the coach is playing favorites and it bugs you, why keep playing for him? here are a few ideas for other clinics/leagues that you may want to try:
PJCC B-Ball (very good)
Legarza
A School team
Rec centers league