we have tried several times in 12 years to make it work and in the end we have split up 7 times i can do it anymore we have 3 kids now 6 months have gone by i have met a guy who is great and treats my kids good do i let it go until i am divorced which i have no idea when that is or do i just be careful and take it slow
2006-10-18 08:42:56 · 9 answers · asked by vomissie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been in this situation myself. I just kept things on the low down. I didn't make a big deal out of things and took it nice and slow. Which is always easier on the kids.
2006-10-18 08:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by cowchic9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time first. That'll let you make sure that you're not with this person as a "rebound," let the children get to know you as the primary caregiver, and keep the new relationship from coming back to bite you in future custody/divorce proceedings. I wouldn't put it past one spouse to bring up the new person in the ex's life as a way of trying to get more rights with the kids. In fact, I've seen that happen. Be careful, for yourself and for your kids.
2006-10-18 08:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it's definetly fine to move on....but are you sure you want to just yet? Maybe this would be a good opportunity for you and your kids to reconnect as a family..minus a live at home dad. The kids will need some time to adjust to the new living arrangements and would probably fair better in the long run if mom took this time to "show them" they you all will be just fine. besides if this new dude is so great he will totally understand and who says he has to go anywhere/...friends first ....possibly lovers later.
2006-10-18 08:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by dawngrundmansphotography 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are emotionally checked out of your last relationship, then go ahead! When it's right it's right. Your new man shouldnt be bothered by the fact that you are seperated, since you are on your way to divorce. Enjoy your good fortune and good luck!
2006-10-18 08:46:28 · answer #4 · answered by imix3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE DO NOT COME BACK TO HIM!!! If it didnt work the first time, why try again?! For the sake of the kids at least, just leave. Find someone else! Get alimony too!
2006-10-18 08:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by sshhmmee2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI!
It is not good to go from one person to another. Take time to learn from mistakes and time for the children to heal. They should be number one.
2006-10-18 08:44:45 · answer #6 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months isnt enough time to really get to know a person. think of your kids, try to make it work with your marriage. try one more time.
2006-10-18 08:47:04 · answer #7 · answered by Phenomenal_Black_Woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separate from your husband and then advance with the new man. If you've tried that many times, then there's obviously nothing that can be done.
2006-10-18 08:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by These Fights 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT DO U THINK??
2006-10-18 08:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by sofie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋