My husband and I are having our first child and it hasn’t been the easiest for me. I have WPW and this pregnancy has flared it up along with other problems. My medical history is crazy and that has caused high blood pressure and uncontrollable cramps stuff like that to top it off my husband is in Iraq so he is missing out on all this. We are having a boy and while I am happy I don’t want to go through this again. But I know he may want to experience being there so he asked me what I wanted to do. A part of me wants to just get them tied and adopt a girl...but the other part of me wants to have a child for my husband. He is being so supportive and wants what is best for me. I don’t know what to do should I go ahead with what I want or should I wait. It’s been a hard pregnancy and is getting harder every day please some advice please!!!
2006-10-18 08:39:45 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Being that this will be for 1st baby, I would not get the tubes tide. I also, had a high risk pregnancy, I was at the doctors office every two weeks or weekly in some cases. Yes it was hard, but well worth it. I would wait if I were you, if you have a second child, then get the tubes tide.
2006-10-18 08:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by magnolia_76 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand both sides of this dilemma. Naturally, your pains are to be given first consideration but, if you do have have your tubes tied, you could also suffer the ultimate pain of losing your husband who has your interests at heart but, ultimately, could leave you to find a wife who is prepared to have more births which would be selfish on his part, but not entirely unknown.
You have to consider what you feel is right for you because you are the one who, ultimately, has to go through the first pain of childbirth whichever way you go. Some women profess that it gets easier after the first child. I wish you both well and hope you both have a happy and healthy baby.
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2006-10-18 08:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that the way you feel right now makes you think you won't want to go through it again but if I were you I would at least wait to decide until AFTER your son is born. You never know... after feeling that love for your son, all this pain and discomfort may not seem SO bad.
I reccommend maybe getting an IUD after the birth, they last up to 5 years so you will have plenty of time to make up your mids without jumping to to a decision that you may regret later on.
Good luck!
2006-10-18 08:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by KB1982 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest thing about your question is that the only one who can answer it is, You.
No one can tell you what a second pregnancy might be like. It could be worse, and it could be much better.
What I suggest is that you not decide now. Wait until this baby is born, and your husband is home. Under less stress your health could be much different! I think you should give it all some time.
2006-10-18 08:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is WPW?
i am sorry you are having a rough pregnancy.... i kept going into labor early but was able to stop it with medications... but my blood pressure was always fine and my blood sugar was fine too...
i think you might regret it if you get your tubes tied..... it would be a wonderful experience having your husband there with you to go through a pregnancy together.....
anyway..only you know what is best for your health... i wouldn't want to give you advice that endangered you....
i think this is something you should talk over with your doctor....your ob-gyn.....
good luck with your little boy!
2006-10-18 08:44:26 · answer #5 · answered by myheartisjames 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait for a little while. I had complications after I delivered my son and had to have a hysterectomy. I wish that I could have had more children with my husband even though I had problems like you are having. It is a BIG decision to make without taking a while to weigh the pros and cons. By the way congratulations!!!!
2006-10-18 08:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by lwaite74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should get vasectomy, it's much more simple than getting your tubes tied. It won't hurt him as much as it would hurt you. Or you and him could just use condoms and birthcontrol.
If your medical history is really bad then you shoud do what is best for you, adoption is a beautiful way to have a child. Help out a child in need, you won't regret it. My parents didn't.
2006-10-18 08:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by ♥starry_eyed_girl♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe that you should get your tubes tied yet. It sounds to me like maybe you need to wait a little longer. Let your first child get a little older, I think you need to talk more to your husband about this. I believe that when a woman gets their tubes tied they need to think about it a little more or give it more time or both because that is a very important decision for every woman. Anyway, that is just my opinion just please give this some thought before you make your final decision.
Thanks
2006-10-18 08:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually they will not tie your tubes if you don't have at least two kids. Even then they are skeptical. On my third baby they tied my tubes and the doctor still didnt' want to do it, he asked me several times through out my last pregnancy, and while I was on the surgery table with my stomach cut open (i had a c-section) and asked again, "Are you SURE you want to do this???"
2006-10-18 08:43:01 · answer #9 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each pregancy is different. My first was a dream...no nausea, no cramping, easy peasy....I just had my second and I was done with that pregnancy about 6-7 mos in. I hated that pregancy, couldn't wait for it to be over...So keep that in mind and also, check to see if the precedure can be reversed later on if you change your mind and want to have a second child.
2006-10-18 08:51:37 · answer #10 · answered by deadzed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋