Should parents worry when kids hide things from them ?

Answer 1

Eeyup, I don't hide ANYTHING from my parents, and my parents are like my best friends now, I can ALWAYS go to them for advice on ANYTHING, and it feels good I have people i can truly trust and love that will accept me for who i am and give me a 100% honest opinion and advice. So all that hiding stuff from parents only creates a wall from your parents, and if you love them, it'll destroy trust, because you hid something from them, which show you don't trust them in THEIR eyes, for you it may be shame, for them it's a matter of distrust, that can really hurt them...because you don't see them as dependable. So if I ever had a son or daughter, I won't hide anything from them, and i'll do my best to NEVER put them in a situation where they couldnt' tell me anything based on embarrasment or shame....because i'm an open person, and communication is an important strenght in the bond of a family, and i'll ensure I have that with the ones i love.

Answer 2

Yes, but worrying will not make the kid's behavior go away. I would suggest the parents get assistance in learning how to communicate with their children, and open a dialogue about why the kids feel it necessary to hide things.

It also depends on what they think the kids are hiding, and how old the kids are. If the "kids" are 18 or older, and the behavior is not criminal, illegal or dangerous to their health, then the parents may just have to accept that their adult children are allowed privacy. Then the issue becomes "house rules rule" vs. "finding your own place".

Answer 3

Nope, it's going to happen. It's just a part of adolescence, that period when they want a little corner of privacy in their lives. Of course, you should worry if they are hiding certain things. Such as drugs, criminal activity, signs of emotional problems, and possibly sex. I say "possibly sex" because most teenagers are not going to be open with their parents on the topic, but sex too early or similar factors can make it worth worrying about.

Answer 4

I think its to be expected that kids will hide things from parents.

Answer 5

YES!
It is natural for our children to hide things from their parents. I am not sure from what side of the issue that you are asking this question. But as a parent and a former teenager (Really I once was one) In searching for indivaual idenity children have a natural need to keep things from their parents, as well as from other adults they see as an authority figure. In some ways it is expected but not always healthy. I know that I kept the big things from my parents things like Drugs alcahol cigerettes and sex. (which included pornogrphy)
As a parent I find it better to keep an open communication with my sons to be a big help. I have always spoke to them about what I expect of them and why I expect it. Not that it is just bad for them but the effects that it can have on the future of their lives later on as well as right now. I remember talking to my oldest son a few weeks before he was killed in auto accident. The conversation went like this. knowing he was a sophmore in college and working with a volunteer fire department where he was being influnced by adult men and may be incouraged to try adult things. "Many times people say that boys need to sow their wild oats and experince things for themselves while they are young. All things that are considered to be a right of passage are not to be experinced by anyone. That none of us know how long we have to live. That we can die at any time when that happens depending on the decission we make to accept Jesus as our personal Savior and to serve him or not will depend where we go when we die. If we choose to accept Christ we will be in Heaven where he has prepared us a place but if we choose not to follow him we will go to Hell and we will live in a torture for all eternity. If we die and have not experinced all the things that others say we should and we have chose to follow Christ we will be too busy celebrating and worshiping Christ we won't have time to worry about what we missed out on. But if we choose not to follow Christ we will be so busy wishing and regretting that we had exceptted Him that we won't care what we did get to do.
Parent to parent I suggest that you keep an open line of comunication with your child. As a parent (former teen) to Teen I suggest that you trust your parents and make them your friend and tell them what you think might need to be a secret.

Answer 6

Depends on the ages of the kids, and what they are hiding from the parents. If you suspect drug and/or alcohol use, then yep, I'd worry.

Answer 7

When you are raising kids ...its your job to worry !!!!!....no one has truely open kids ...all you can hope is that you have taught them that bad secrets create bad things happening ....and if they are not sure if something is good or bad to talk about it
That is all fine and dandy till they are teens ...then their peers are told everything so dont worry if anyone knows you and them ..they will tell you soon enough if he or she is up to mischief

Answer 8

how do the parents know the kids are hiding something????

Answer 9

ya i would be!!! i dont have any kids but i know that i never kept anything from my mom she's like my best friend i tell her everything!! tell ur kids that if they need to talk that ur there for them. what ever they tell u dont get mad be there friend!! that's what my mom does with my brother's and they dont hide anything from my mom!!!

Answer 10

it depends what it is .. all kids I'm sure have done it .. as long as it's not dangerous then let them have there privacy