Just because I flirt doesn't make me a bad person. I like to socialize and my husband is a statue. no fun
2006-10-18 08:20:56 · 29 answers · asked by tink 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There should be no problem with married people having friends of both sexes. Just don't cross the line of just being friends and your husband should be fine!
Socializing and flirting are two different things entirely!
2006-10-18 08:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by Older Sister 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Married people do have friends of both sexes ... it is called being an adult.
You should be flirting with your Husband, not other random men. Maybe that is why he is a "statue" -- just because he respects you and your marriage to each other doesn't make him "no fun".
Grow up and discover your Husband -- flirt with him and see how much fun he is!
2006-10-18 15:29:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They can have friends of both sexes. Flirting is healthy and there is nothing wrong with it. The only time it is no longer that way is when it goes further then flirting. It has taken forever to get my gf to understand this and I think there is finally hope ;) besides it gives your husband a chance to kick some *** if someone crosses the line. He should be happy about that ;P
2006-10-18 15:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Married people can most definitely have friends of both sexes. Flirting however, is something you do before you get married! He's no fun? Was he fun before you got married, and then just stopped, or, did you already know that and think you were going to change him?
2006-10-18 15:32:54 · answer #4 · answered by Hwy2?? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, you like to flirt ( I assume with the opposite sex) so what if it were the other way around and HE was a flirt, would it bother you? Gotta give an honest answer here. Also, some people are more outgoing than others. Which may be true in your case.
2006-10-18 15:24:48 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suppose you can,but me and my husband prefer not to.Like he has friends at work and i have friends,but when we are together it is totally just us with maybe some family members.I have found that your best friend will definitely stab you in the back when it comes to your man,whether he is fun or not,he is yours!The same with my husband's friends,once his back was turned the culling started.So to have a trustworthy marriage and not because we can't trust one another,it's our friends,we therefore have no friends in our relationship.I know it sounds weird,but i love my marriage along with caring for my friends,just not in our business of our relationship.There is no place for them there.If you do place them there,rumors start over the littlest things,plus like i mentioned trying to take a moment with your man,even though they don't want them,it is to show that they can,then you have a big mess,and it is just not worth it to us.Another thing family is always to come first! Not your friends,and if your friends have a problem with that,then there heart as a friend is not for real to begin with.So you would have to question the motive then of the friendship.Best wishes to you and your husband and be careful in the choosing of the company you keep!
2006-10-18 15:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Married people can have platonic friends of either sex.
With that said, your issue seems to be centered on an unhappy marriage. That makes having a friend of the opposite sex dangerous -- and the fact that you flirt...... just asking for trouble! Marriage counseling may help you.
2006-10-18 15:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
trust me i know how u feel im the same way. My guy does not like when i flirt but its not that we do in on purpose it just comes out. I bet u dont even relize that u are flirting right? but i think their is nothing wrong with u have=ing frinds of the opposite sex but u do have to undestand him as well because the other guys might get mixed signals from u. I guess we both should just be carefull how and with who we flirt LOL!
2006-10-18 15:26:29 · answer #8 · answered by erika d 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why did you marry him if hes no fun. Its ok to have mutal friends of the opposite sex, but its wierd if you wanna go hang out with someone just as the two of you.
2006-10-18 15:24:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to have them but at the same time you have to know your roll with them and they need to know their roll as well. Flirting doesn't make you a bad person but it makes you come across as a easy target for men. It draws a lot of drama that you don't need if you are happily married.
2006-10-18 15:30:18 · answer #10 · answered by liliw24 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋