Even though this separation is difficult, it is going to work out for best. During this time, concentrate on you. Make choices that are going to better you and help you. Get involved with hobbies like playing golf, basketball, lifting weights etc.. Get out and do healthy things, positive things that are going to better you. If you are involved in church attend a church one Sunday and open you heart and mind. Some areas have dog walking groups, get involved. I hope this helps. Good luck and God bless.
2006-10-18 08:31:44
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answered by Wifey K 3
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One day at a time is what you can do and all you should do.
Change is scary and few people like it especially when they have no choice.
Use this time to search your soul, think about the reasons your relationship failed and what you can do in future relationships to succeed. Think aout your children and what you can do to help them. They most likely feel the same emotions as you do.
One day at a time hunny, one day at a time. Develop some close friends that you can talk to, personally, I;d say find someone online, an impartial party that can help you vent your fears without being vulnerable or risking telling a friend only to have it throw back in your face,
The hardest part has been done so now you just need to concentrate on what is best for the children and for yourself. Don;t worry too much about this. Everything will be just fine it is merely a matter of time.
HUGS
2006-10-18 08:21:51
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answered by BlondeBarbie 4
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This is so hard, but I think a good dose of reality...
You were someone before you met and married your ex ... you should still be that person in some forms.
Every person changes, whether or not we recognize it, we change bit by bit. So, you have changed. Your life will continue to change.
I think that you should get back into the activities that made you feel like "you" in the first place. No that your life will change, but it will change in a good direction if you want it too.
I am not saying jump back into the dating scene, I am just saying that you should get back into getting to know yourself and with time, you will see what you want your new life to be.
There may be someone else out there for you and there may not be, only time will tell but in the end, you came into this world alone and you will leave this world alone and you have to make the most of it while you can.
Enjoy getting to know yourself again.
2006-10-18 08:25:10
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answered by Anonymous
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I've never been married but engaged with 2 daughters. We were together for 7 years when we separated due to his new pregnant girlfriend it was the hardest thing I ever had to get over. Just know that it takes time. Take it one day at a time and find you a Hobie something to keep you busy to keep your mind from wondering. Bed time was always the hardest. It gets better and easier with time. You also need to get you a friend a good one someone you can talk to about any and everything and who will understand and be there for you. You can't keep it in you have to let it out or it will just eat you up inside. I hate this saying but it's true everything happens for a reason good or bad.
2006-10-18 08:22:56
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answered by Anonymous
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Don't listen to Jazz, you need to heal from this relationship before bringing someone else into the picture. Try to go out with friends & do some fun things...things you enjoy...things you haven't done in awhile. If you are a person that doesn't like change, it will take longer for you....and that is okay. You know if you think about it, sometimes change can really be good...even if we don't see it at the moment. Look at it as an opportunity to open new doors for you & experiencing life differently. The sooner you are able to do this for yourself, the sooner you will stop having trouble :)
2006-10-18 08:23:58
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answered by Geez Louise 4
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This is a tough time of change.
Just don't isolate yourself. Make sure you get exercise and maybe find some activities that interest you.
Try and spend some quality tim with your kids.
If a divorice is for sure, then start dating. If there is a possibality of getting back with her, don't date.
There is no question that this will be hard on you, you can count on it. But remember this is your life and you can choose to be misserable about this the rest of your life or you can go through your grief and then move on and make a happy life for yourself.
It is very important to take care of yourself right now.
2006-10-18 08:28:18
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answered by clcalifornia 7
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I may not be an expert, seeing as I haven't even graduated from high school yet, and have never been married, but I'd say that the most important thing is knowing that you don't live forever. Don't mope around and waste your new life missing your old life. Get out there and have some fun, man!! When you're feeling down, try out something new that you've never done before. Something that you could never do with your wife around! Go Sky-diving, take a vacation to somewhere that your wife would never dream of going!! Get out there and live your life, because only you can live it!!!
Good luck! Peace Out!
2006-10-18 08:21:22
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answered by Britt 2
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Just be patient, you will get used to it. It's better to go through difficult change than to put up with a situation that was making both of you unhappy. You will come through this difficult time and you will find happiness again, either through being happy by yourself, or with a new lady (one who loves dogs! - unfortunately I am no longer available, but tell them I sent pats and kisses anyway!) Believe me, the dogs will help a lot. I ended my marriage and even though I wanted it to end, I was very up and down for a while. But I soon settled down and 18 months later I met a wonderful, kind man who loves me for some reason and is kind to my cat!
2006-10-18 08:32:34
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answered by Specsy 4
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I am recently divorced, you have to find things that make you a complete person without those that were in your life up to this point. If your spiritual go be ACTIVE in the church, if your into sports join a league... do things that you enjoy but be careful not to just fill up the emptiness but find things out about yourself that you didn't even know!
And of course grieve... something has died mourn it and then do the best you can to move on....
This is just my opinion and I did not have children soo I can only speak on the things I know...
GOOD LUCK
2006-10-18 08:20:38
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answered by Anonymous
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Recently separated does not mean recently divorced. Take the time you need to gather your thoughts and then try and move on. Take that time to think about what went wrong, how it can be better handled next time (possibly the next relationship etc...)
Use this time wisely for reflection of your relationship. They say for every year you're together you need 3 months of alone time to truly move on.
Good luck to you and I'm sorry for your loss, hopefully one day you'll be able to see the silver lining and you'll find the woman you were meant to walk the rest of your days next to.
2006-10-18 08:23:25
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answered by Heather S 4
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