2006-10-18 08:13:48 · 23 answers · asked by Jeremy D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Get off the computer and go meet some people.
2006-10-18 08:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by Gaspode 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, ask yourself,
1) Why do I want to be popular. Is it to just fit in with the so-called in crowd?
If you are wanting to be popular for this reason, I would suggest that you probably need to work on some self-esteem issues.
Popularity is not a bad thing, it just depends on why you want to be popular.
If it does mean a lot to you, I would suggest you try a new
hobby or sport and find the area where you might attract friends.
I don't believe it's about changing your whole image completely, mainly just your mind-set.
Remember to be happy as you are and accept What God has blessed you with. You are probably hiding many talents.
You have to try and look for them. That's the fun part.
If you want to be really cool because it is a phase you are going through, hang out with the hip crowd but remember, it probably may be short-lived.
Just be happy with being "you".
A lot of people probably like you anyway.
Good luck!
2006-10-18 08:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question shows me that you want people to like you so that you will feel better about yourself. Stop trying to be popular. This is very selfish, and most times it doesnt work. If you have a bad self image now, no amount of popularity is going to help you. Besides, when you have a bad self image, others notice and dont want to hang around you. So fix your self image, by finding a hobby that you like, and focus on bettering your talents in that area. Be yourself, even if your a dork sometimes. Love who you are, there is no one else like you! After you master that, here is how to become popular:
I can guess that you focus ALOT on yourself. Most people will like you if you take an interest in THEM. Ask them questions about themselves, don't talk about yourself. If you make others feel good about being with you, you will make some friends. The more friends you make, the more popular you become. Also don't try too hard. Don't talk to the same person all the time. Its good to pass someone in the hall and not say hi to them sometimes. Its good to not return a phone call sometimes. Its good to sit with different people at the lunch table. Dont be too needy. It makes you look desperate. If someone shows no interest in becoming your friend, move on. Remember, you can do this if you want to be popular, but there are more important things in life like being true to yourself and your integrity.
2006-10-18 08:28:58 · answer #3 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is it so important to be popular? Just be yourself. Always be yourself. Don't try to be someone else, just to fit in with a certain type or social standing. It's not worth it. You need to remember, that high school (I'm assuming you're somewhere in that area) is only four years. What about after those four years? Are you going to give two s**ts about what those people thought of you then? What are the others going to think of you? Oh, he was the guy that pretended to be someone else just so he could fit in. What a loser.
Or will it be, oh, he was the guy who didn't care what others thought, he was always himself. That's cool.
I'd rather be me, than popular. Anyday. And yes, I was popular in school, it's not all it's cracked up to be. Trust me. You can be just as lonely when you're popular.
2006-10-18 08:19:24 · answer #4 · answered by Allycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Popularity is a STATE OF MIND: if you begin to think you are popular and act like you are popular...you will become popular
But does it really matter how popular you are? In thirty year's time no-one will remember the way you used to act, the clothes you used to wear or how popular you were in school/college
all that will be in other people's memory is just your name and a faded face....
So just be yourself and have confidence
2006-10-18 08:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by Angel_like 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be kind and generous to most people and make people laugh. And when I say be generous I don't mean buy them stuff, or at least not in an extravagant sense. You can be generous with your time, skills, patience, forbearance, tolerance, all sorts of things. Don't make the mistake of thinking people can genuinely be bought though: the sort of people who respond to that are just taking the giver for a ride anyway. As soon as the money/gifts aren't there any more, neither are they.
And another thought: learn to appreciate yourself and be quietly confident (not in a bragging, I am the greatest, sense) but just to be self-sufficient and not depend on others' good opinion of you. If you genuinely like yourself, others will tend to like you too.
2006-10-18 08:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out why you have the need to be popular in the first place.
2006-10-18 08:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, people should like you for you, not because your cool or popular, most people end up hating the popular kids anyways? So then is it that you want to be hated??
2006-10-18 08:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by xopinkrose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off.. you can't just be popular in like a day.
You should start talking to new people or join sports and clubs at school that will definately get you to know everyone.
Good luckkk
2006-10-18 08:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by ♥lisette♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be your self and wear a chicken costume to school on the days you want to feel really popular everyone will stare at you maybe evan ask you questions i promise this is the ticket to pure popularity.
2006-10-18 08:17:13 · answer #10 · answered by Now and Again 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to start up simple conversations with various people you don't know very well, ask them questions about themselves to get to know them better or compliment them on something. You could also join a sports team or club that has a lot of different kinds of people in it. Good Luck!
2006-10-18 08:48:06 · answer #11 · answered by ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋