what's wrong with flirting even if your married? you only live once?

Question

I met this guy and we have been e-mailing eachother for 2 weeks now he wants to have a drink with me but I can't unless I lie about where i'm going

Answer 1

You are walking down a shaky stretch of road here.

My guess is you are bored in your marriage and think someone else could be better (and of course it would be at first).

How would you react if your husband did this to you?

Theres your answer.

Answer 2

the problem is that it is going to end up heuting someone. My husband and I are having this problem right now. Andit is killing both of us. even though you are only flirting, it can mistaken as something else. Don't go for the drink, it is wrong, no matter how you try to make it right. I wish I could take back all the "flirting" that I have done, and he wishes the same, but I think that the dmage is already done. don;t make the same mistake that I did.

Answer 3

you shouldnt do that you are a married women and you should act the part and what you are doing now is cheating because you havent told your husband and you are thinking about having a drink . you to tell this guy that you are married and having a drink would be wrong and disrespectfull toward your husband . what would you do if your husband was emailing and talking to another female behind your back and going to meet for drinks and lied to you . you wouldnt like it at all , stop and think about what you are doing .

Answer 4

You made a commitment. If you have to lie to your husband to do something you want to do, then you need to re-evaluate your marriage. If you and your husband cannot agree on the groundrules for your marriage, then it ain't workin'.

Personally I think meeting this guy is going to lead to temptation, then you will get confused as to where to draw the line... But the point is that you and your husband have to agree where that line is. It's not enough to say he's being unreasonable and do it anyway.

Answer 5

Figure out what this new man gives you that is missing in your marriage...positive feedback, attention, whatever...and try and get it in your marriage. Going out with him is having an emotional affair even if you do not make this sexual. You may only live once but you can marry and divorce a lot and hurt your partners a lot.

Answer 6

That is not considered flirting if you meet him, that is considered cheating. Light flirting is one thing as long as it does not upset you significant other, but if it does then it is wrong. You can shop as long as you don't try on or buy. Don't meet this guy unless you want to ruin what you already have. Leave your husband if you want to see other people, don't cheat on him.

Answer 7

You should ask your husband what he thinks about you meeting some random internet guy for drinks and flirtation. And ask yourself what is the problem in your marriage that is making you look outside of it for attention. Wouldn't you be furious if the roles were reversed and your husband was doing this?

Answer 8

If you love your husband don't go for the drink. That is lack of respect for your spouse. If you want to go for the drink tell the person you are going with you are married and bringing your husband and tell you husband and ask him to go. That way you are involving him with friends you acquire.

Answer 9

Don't flirt with this guy...but don't lie either. tell your husband that you're going out for a drink with a friend...heavy emphasis in my "voice".

Answer 10

where did you meet this guy? and why are you out trying to meet men if you're married? it's not right for you to be doing this to your husband. how would you feel if he were out meeting women and emailing and meeting up with them? if you want to live like a single woman then get divorced.