ok , last night i asked my fiance to help me save money for a trip we want to take next year by letting me put $400 into his empty savings account every week. later on we went to the mall to look at cell phones and get a couple things. i went to the atm and took money and my balance inquiry out. about 45 mins later i was in target at the register and realized i left my atm card in the machine!! my fiance ran to get it, and he gave me his check card to pay for the stuff. after i paid i went to find him and he said my card was nowhere to be found. i panicked and called to cancel my card so nobody could use it. after i got off the phone my fiance was acting weird all night. this next morning when i went in his wallet to get money for the train I SAW MY CARD!!! i just got off the phone with him and hes laughing and saying that he wanted to help me save, & he noticed i go to the atm to withdraw money everyday. i know he didnt mean any harm...but i hate not having $ on me!! what would u do?
2006-10-18 08:05:08 · 17 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just laugh it off. He's being a good fiance.
2006-10-18 08:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by It's a secret 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay is your card attached to his savings account? If so, then he might have been telling the truth, but he still had no right to take your card and freak you out like that. If you card and his account are not together, then he had no right to take your card at all and he was probably going to take the money out. I would be cautious, I mean when you love someone you don't want to freak them out and upset them. And he even let you cancel it without telling you he had it all along. I don't know, I am smelling a rotten apple right now.
2006-10-18 15:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not cool. Even if it was a joke-haha He should have told you before you went and canceled the card. Does he have access to this money? Besides he sounds like he is trying to control you and thats not a good sign. I'd talk to him about how the "TWO" of you are going to handle the finances BEFORE you get married or this will be a big issue for you when you are married
good luck
2006-10-18 15:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by ROOTER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be ready to choke him, that is not a very funny joke. You are a grown up and can take care of your own money, it is not his job, if yall are not married. Just because you wanted to save doesn't mean you didn't want to spend too. It would take a lot of sucking up to get me back in his good graces.
2006-10-18 15:18:42 · answer #4 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea i would definitly be mad he had no right to take ur card it is none of his business it's ur money really not his so to help u save money he should help u with some good habits like buying cheap stuff and that kind of thing not try to steal ur atm card
2006-10-18 15:17:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be furious. Yeah, he probably didn't mean any harm, but he pretty much lied to you. Do you have a debit card you can use so that you don't have to keep going to the ATM?
2006-10-18 15:09:41 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would be mad, but then I would get over it. If you had asked him to help you save money, and then he sees you spend it, he's really not helping you. Don't ask for someones help and then get mad when they come through for you. A better scenario would have been for him to calm your fears and tell you he had it, but he was going to keep it so he could help you decide when and how to spend to help you save some money.
2006-10-18 15:10:13 · answer #7 · answered by cowboys21angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut up his cards and put them back in his wallet so that he will be in for a suprise the next time he goes to pay for something.
Payback is a b*tch.
2006-10-18 15:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by tractor girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately be very mad. Maybe you should talk this over with h im and tell him how you feel. I hate to say this,but i don't think he is taking the relationship very seriously if he did that.
2006-10-18 15:09:17 · answer #9 · answered by ☺collia☺ PaRtY LiKe tInKeRbElL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep saving up and get a good job and don't spend it on things you don't think you need.
2006-10-18 15:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by giacomo_mor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋