me and my bf have been together for almost a year now. We have never actually had sex..but we have pretty much beat around the bush. Both of us respect each others decision about not having sex. However, he does "finger" me sometimes.
Recently, my conservative mom found out that I have been "sexually active", and she wants me to go to the gynecologist to get tested to see if i'm still a "virgin" or not.
What are the chances that my hymen broke without bleeding or any pain.
Can my hymen break during my period?
What test will the gynecologist perform to check if my hymen is still intact?
Are there any symptoms that indicate whether my hymen is broken or not?
FYI: I've never used tampons..i stick to pads.
Please help!! i'm really confused and scared!
2006-10-18 07:53:04 · 10 answers · asked by Scared&Confuzed 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Yes it is possible that you no longer have a hymen. It is also possible that you never had one, some girls don't.
Either way, I'm pretty sure that unless she is in the exam room with you or you tell her that she will never know. I don't think a doctor is allowed to tell her that stuff; but that depends on your age and where you live.
2006-10-18 07:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by big_bookworm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fingering can break the hymen - if you ever had one in the first place. It's quite possible that you never had one. But if your boyfriend hasn't put his penis inside you then you're still a virgin, not matter what the state of your hymen is.
A gynecologist is there to look for health problems, not moral issues.
The gyno can't perform any procedure on you without your permission. All you need to do is say no. No matter what your parents say. Your parents might not believe that you haven't had intercourse, but if you're telling the truth, then thay are wrong - simple as that
If you even had a hymen to start with, they break very easily, often with no pain and little blood. Riding a bike or horse can do it.
If you don't have a hymen, then there is no test for virginity, other than by asking if you have had sex.
2006-10-18 11:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by Seraphim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre hymen is a tricky little thing you can "pop" it with a tampon so I would assume that if you are fingered you can lose it as well. I didn't realize that my hymen had popped when I had actual sex for the first time I guess I was lucky because my first time didn't hurt my ex claimed that there was a little blood but i didn't see any of it. I don't know the procedure of a doctor checking to see if a hymen is intact or not but I would assume they'll put you up on the table with your feet in the stirrups and look up inside you and probably put a finger in there to see if the hymen is intact. Honestly if you're already on the table you should just have them perform a pap smear so you don't have to worry about it for another year.
2006-10-18 08:09:56 · answer #3 · answered by athenajade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are scared, what you have been doing could have broken your hymen but sexual activity is part of growing up and provided you and your b/f both want to do these things then that is your decision and not your parents. I presume that you and your b/f are of similar ages and old enough in law to be sexually active. Sex between consenting people is fantastic and nothing to be ashamed about so stick up for your personal rights.
No doctor should do any kind of examination without the consent of his patient - YOU, not your mother.
2006-10-18 08:29:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to your mom. I don't know about any test, but lots of things can affect your hymen. If you are very athletic or use tampons or if you've been "fingered". Just be honest with her and tell her that you have been involved in some heavy petting, but that you have both decided to "wait" and that your boyfriend respects your decision. If she does take you to the gyno just tell the doctor that you want your mother to leave the room while your being examined and then tell him you don't want him to discuss the results of your exam with her.
2006-10-18 08:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a girl's hymen can break riding a bike, so a doc can't really tell how it broke, just that is has been broken and make sure that before you give consent to the doc for the exam that he/she tells your mom that. and if the doc won't tell mom that, then don't let him/her examine you.
Mom should be worried to make sure you know about protection than IF you had sex. You should not have sex til marriage, but things happen and you should know how to keep from getting diseases from infected people if something unforseen happens.
2006-10-18 08:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by Amber C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the big deal about being a virgin? You are going to waste a doctor's time to have him/her check if your hymen is intact when many people are waiting with serious issues. Get over the virgin issue and enjoy life before it passes you bye.
2006-10-18 07:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm... Yes, it could have stretched, but in any state in the US the doctor has to have the GIRLS permission to perform a test of any kind that involves down there... SO... all youhave to do is say NO, and he cant touch you, no matter what your parents say. So tell her that... and tell her that if she doesnt believe that you havent had sex, then maybe you will start having sex!
2006-10-18 07:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it can break, that's how I lost mine. I was 16, but I don't consider it "losing your virginity" I didn't lose my virginity until I was 21 b/c that is how I wanted it.
2006-10-18 08:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by nellbell0921 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-10-18 07:56:34 · answer #10 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋