We been together for over a year now but he cheated on me and we just have some problems now. Like sometimes we are so happy with each other but he just gets mad to fast and snaps at me so i dont know what to do. I realy love him and I know he loves me but we just got to many bad things going on now, and in going to move and he doesnt trust me so he thinks im going to cheet on him or something like that but i know i wouldnt ever do that to him just because he did so i dont know if i should stay with him or not.
2006-10-18 07:51:24 · 36 answers · asked by La C0qu3ta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
get out now before a real commitment is made
2006-10-18 07:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by san_ann68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't trust you and you can't seriously trust him after he cheated then you do not have a good relationship. For a relationship to be good there has to be 100% trust and respect for each other.
If he's snapping at you over nothing then he has a problem with controlling his temper & he may in time become controlling or even abusive, no matter how much you love him a relationship like that will destroy your life.
I'd move on seriously, theres just way too many bad points in this relationship & a happy ending seems extremely unlikely
2006-10-18 08:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by madamspud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had the audacity to not trust YOU....and HE'S the one who cheated!? Eeeyah I'd highly suggest you break up with him...find somebody more intelligent and not as hypocritical as this guy. He doesn't TRULY love you if he cheated in the first place. You can find somebody who'll TRULY love you, and appreciate you for who you are. Besides the arguments, the stress, and the trust is already broken and destroyed, you are now only being involved in a rollercoaster of drama. Do you really want to become a drama queen and stay, or do you want to be the sensible girl who knows she's a woman who deserves a 'REAL' man? People come and go, it's the ones who truly give their heart and devotion that you keep.
2006-10-18 07:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How you talked about the situation? Is he over the fact that he cheated on you? If yes, than why is he worry that you might to the same? if he is still worry, could be that he is not over it. in a relationship there must be trust no matter were both of you may be. If he is not ready to trust you even though YOU have not done anything wrong, than he has some thinking to do. You need someone that can trust you and let you move on.
2006-10-18 07:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by J.J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on you, he doesn't truly love you. If you are having all these questions about your relationship, you don't truly love him.
They say once a cheater, always a cheater. I don't necessarily beleive that. The average person cheats on their spouse because they are lacking something in a relationship. Unless you get to the root of the problem, the cheater will continue to cheat.
That doesn't mean they will be a cheater forever. If they leave that relationship, begin a new one, where they are fulfilled in their needs, they will have no desire to cheat.
Unless you are both willing to get to the root of the problems, put full trust in each other, and agree to try and make it work, wholeheartedly, break it off now.
2006-10-18 07:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by Allycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said you love him but why he cheated. That would be enough for me to move on. Sometimes relationship don't work out and you have to move on even though you still have feelings. Don't worry time will heal that and you'll find someone else. Never date a cheater! Once a cheater always a cheater. He's blaming you on cheating and I bet 100 dollars he's still cheating. This character is bad news. Move on you deserve so much better.
2006-10-18 07:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. About the snapping.... Anticipate attack... Remember you don't deserve to be talked to any kinda way. So if he gets out his body, remind him of who you are and why the b s is unacceptable.
2. Do you trust yourself? Do you put yourself in any situation where one touch could equal cheating? Well based on the answers you come up with, alter your current actions. Other wise continue on present path.
3. Focus more on you and the stuff you gotta do besides love him... because whether you get married or break up tomorrow your world will still keep spinning, and letting him and his bull rule your mind, whether you admit it or not is distracting you from you.
2006-10-18 08:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by Bianca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but, it's really hard to work out a relationship when you've been cheated on. If you're already having second thoughts about staying with him, then you know it's time to move on. Relationships are never the same once the trust is destroyed.
2006-10-18 07:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by candy- capped 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u love the kid and u've been w him over a year try to talk to him and see wat u can come out with to fix ur situation but on the other hand if he has cheated on u already he will probally do it again and know since he knows u know he has cheated he thinks ur going to do the same to him but like i always say "if i havent done it yet wat makes u think i would do it now " well if hes saying ur probally going to cheat on him hes showing u he does not trust u so if theres no trust then i think u should leave him but dont take my word for it and just break up w him u should follow ur heart im just giving sum advice so good luck on ur relationship
2006-10-18 08:05:16 · answer #9 · answered by La Timida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol HE thinks YOU are gonna CHEAT on HIM LMAO thats funny!!
me and my b/f went through a bad patch the first year we were together, you need to both sit down and just get it all out your systems otherwise it will carry on, when thats over with, go out more, cinema pub wherever! You have to get that special thing back that you and him had b4 this cheat happened.
i think if you really really love him and he feels the same, try and work at it, if it dont work out, you both cant say you never tried :o)
Good Luck !
xXx
2006-10-18 07:54:17 · answer #10 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you 5foot+- 140lbs 18 to 50+- ,Have a pleasing happy face. Are you active , like downhill skiing, Hiking occasionally on improved trails, skinny-dipping. Interior decorate, cook , bake, garden even landscape design. Dine out every so often. Camp out at out state parks, can you teach me to dance again, shoot pool, do a little bowling Take in the museum's and art shows, ballet and live theater, take part in the annual pagan celebrations?
Long question YES!
Why aren't you with me?
2006-10-18 08:13:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋