i love her but she dosent trust me we arrgue and she say things that hurt my feeling she thinks im cheatin but we make love almost everyday and it feels so good to be around her when shes not mad at me i rush home from work to be with her but i want it to be how it was before all of the problems came in what should i do to correct this problem
2006-10-18 07:48:35 · 14 answers · asked by PATRICIA P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let her read this..then maybe she will then believe you
2006-10-18 07:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problems didn't just come in out of nowhere. She's had them for a long time and was just able to stifle them for a while. Also, I'd also posit that you don't actually love your wife as she is now; you love what she used to be - "before all the problems came in".
If you were able to point to a particular incident or moment in time that might have precipitated this change (i.e. got caught lying or cheating), I'd say you could talk with her and see what you could do to demonstrate your trustworthiness. But if this has come out of nowhere, I don't think there's anything YOU can do to correct this problem. Either she gets help for her massive trust issues, or she gets to live on her own. There is nothing you could possibly feel for this woman that justifies putting up with such verbal abuse on a daily basis. I can't imagine your wedding vows obligated you to that.
2006-10-18 07:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by Katie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her this and tell her that there is no place for another woman other than her. Tell her that love is trust and without the two trusting each other there can be no true love. Or just tell her that you will wait for her to trust you. The only solution is talking.
She should be lucky to get a husband like you. She will one day realize it.
Good luck and hope your marriage life turns out successful.
2006-10-18 07:56:00 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she feels like you are distancing yourself from her in some way?? And because of that she feels jealous that that something else is keeping you occupied instead of her!! Women aren't just all about sex.. In the physical way. You have to spend more time on the other aspects? Or maybe its not you perhaps theres some other deeper problems thats making her unhappy! Just try and find out.Be patient and Loving? Let whatever it is bring you closer instead of push you apart.
2006-10-18 07:53:22 · answer #4 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a woman's point of view, she probably feels like you make love to her almost every night because you want her only for her body and not for the parts of her that mean more to her--things such as her mind, spirit, soul, personality, etc. Give her more quality time WITHOUT making love to her as often. Let her hear romantic words. Do thoughtful, little things for her more.
2006-10-18 08:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to sit down and calmly talk to her and just ask her why she believes ur cheating on her. Because u have not given her any reasons for her to believe that. and if that does not work i would just go to see professional help. Because if she loves u as much as u do, she should trust u because that's what marriage and a relationship is all about.
Good luck!! =)
2006-10-18 07:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by erika d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her. She may have been burned before and is afraid of getting burned again. Tell her how you feel and you also have to realize that her behavior while you can deal with it now, in a few years her jealousy and insecurity will affect you in a very negative way. she may need to talk to a professional to help her get over her insecurity.
2006-10-18 07:52:09 · answer #7 · answered by jbellaboo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you tell her how you feel about her.
Sounds like a little marital counseling might help this. She needs someone else to show her she is just looking for something to cause a problem.
2006-10-18 07:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be paranoid, seriously get some help for her and don't do things to make her jealous. She obviously loves you very much. It could be worst if she could care less.
2006-10-18 07:59:55 · answer #9 · answered by bush_is_an_idot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she working or a housewife? Try to get her to spend time with her friends or let her learn somethings new.
2006-10-18 07:59:42 · answer #10 · answered by Sob Sob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she been evaluated for depression? Clinical depression causes changes in personality.
2006-10-18 07:55:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋