My name is roxy, I'm 20. I met a guy not too long ago in a chat room and we hit it off. I got his number and we started talking over the phone and texting. About a month ago I got a call from this girl and she told me that she was his girlfriend of 3 years and they just got an apartment together. She told me she was in love with this guy and wanted to marry him. She asked me if I'd stop contacting him and I said I would. I haven't stopped yet. I fell in love with this guy. I want him to leave her and come be with me. He doesn't really talk to me anymore. I try to call and text him but I hardly get a response back and its usually short and brief. He says him and his girlfriend are celebrating their anniversary on Oct. 19th and he is thinking of asking her to marry him. I can't let that happen. I want him to be with me not her. How can I get him to leave her for me? How can I stop him from asking her to marry him?
2006-10-18 07:41:35 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the thing is I knew he had a girlfriend. He wasn't attached to me but I became attached to him. He told me he was just looking for friends but I was texting him telling him I loved him and I wanted him but he wouldnt tell me that. He isn't a liar. He was honest with me.
2006-10-18 08:00:15 · update #1
What makes you think you are ever going to be the only one he'll be with IF he did be with you?? He's not comeing to you. Not to be mean, just real. You wouldn't like it if you were the one he was cheating on, so don't be the other women. You're only 20. Live and there is other wonderful, single guys out there so go have some fun..He's not worth your time if he's cheating..L
2006-10-18 07:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by ben and lisa h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay - First off - Y is it you want a guy that lied and kept secret that he was attached to another? Do you really think he'd be faithful with you? If she wants him and all that comes along with that, then wish them Good Luck and go on your way! I know you don't want to hear this, but come on, you're 20!! Believe me there will be A LOT more fish in the ocean for you to sample!! He's not really contacting you anymore so please save what little self respect you have left and leave him alone!! Girl, you are just making a fool out of yourself! You can't get him to leave her, or stop him from asking her to marry him! He's already told you that he's going to do these things! Do you need to be hit over the head with a boulder or what to get the hint - HE AIN'T THAT INTO YOU!! You aren't in love with him, you're infatuated, obsessed, and now he's like a challenge to you! And what woman doesn't like a challenge, but it's not worth it hon. Just sweep this one under the rug and chalk up this situation to experience. You'll be better off in the long run!
2006-10-18 14:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by yokrem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello, well i think that if he did like you he should have been honest with u at first. And if he does not call u back or text u back it could be cause he really does not want to have nothing with you. the way u described him shows that he really likes his girl friend. I dont mean to be mean or heat but u should just let them be happy and as for u move on. u can find another guy way better than him. Because if he already asked her to marry him trust me thiers is nothing u can do.
2006-10-18 14:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by erika d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET GO! If you're trying to get him to leave her, what's stopping him from leaving you in the future. If he didn't tell you about her in the first place then he's not honest. There are plenty other men out there. God has a plan for you and he does have somebody waiting for you.
2006-10-18 14:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by janet_67_1998 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only one that needs to stop anything is you....
Take it from someone just comming out of a situation where taking risks and going after a man no matter what was the center of her life..
In the end, he's gonna go to whom he wants, you have no way to influence this rather than to be yourself. and in the if and/or when things don't go your way.....your gonna feel exausted, broken, foolish, and wondering why you didn't save yourself this kind of anguish earlier in the game....
move on sweetie, your the most important thing in your life, don't loose yourself for anyone...
2006-10-18 14:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by Bianca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rox....he was cheating on his gf with you and then she found out. So he dumped you. He'll always cheat, and the "other woman" will always get dumped. He's a loser and you need to get up, get out and move on.
Go get your hair done, your nails done, go buy a new top and maybe those boots you thought he'd think were hot...and go out clubbing and give your dig's out to a few cute guys.
NO MAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS!
And when you find out when the wedding is, DO show UP! WHEE!
2006-10-18 14:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, he's made his decision and it's not you. He's obviously come clean to his gf and wants to do the right thing by her, and by you trying to interfere you're just being a home wrecker. Leave him alone.
2006-10-18 16:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't want him anyways because if he was willing to talk to you while he was with another girl, what makes you think that he wouldn't do that to you if you were with him. I know you think you love him but you can't really love THEM as a whole until you met them. Let him go.
2006-10-18 14:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by jessigirl00781 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it may seem hard, but you'll have to forget him. If he's picking up girls in chatrooms behind his girlfreinds back...then he's likley to be a cheater as well. Go out with some friends and try to forget him, you deserve better than him!
2006-10-18 14:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by Yokihana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make him leave his gf, sounds like he was just playing games with you, a lot of people do that online, besides he lied to you about having a gf, why would you want him? how could you believe anything else he says??
2006-10-18 14:45:22 · answer #10 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋