i have been with my boyfriend almost a year weve had a few ups and downs but i love him more than anything,hes 30 and im 25 im in no rush for kids or marriage but also im not getting any younger he finds it hard telling me he loves me and i tell him everyday!he uses the excuse that its a man thing?also i talk about kids and getting married in the future and he says he's not ready i cant believe hes not thinking of the future at 30 yrs old?i dont like to stay with a man who is with me just for the moment i feel its a big waste he knows how i feel about this.so what can i do?
2006-10-18 07:41:21 · 14 answers · asked by nikki 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hiya my blokey is the same he will tell me he loves me but only if he has to. we have a little girl and have talked about marriage but his car always comes before a ring!!! i just say to my bloke wen hes not showing me love, look i need some love and affection. i need to know and people around need to know how important i am to u. i suggest you do the same. just ask him straight out what hes feeling and weither he wants to grow old alone or with mini hims runnin round!
if he says he doesnt want kids ever and you do, dont hang on to him, as you get older its more difficult to become pregnant. take the bull by the horn. think of you for once not him
hope this helps, good luck with him
rachx
2006-10-18 07:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by Rach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI, if someone dont love you the way you want him to love its not real love, if someone really loves you and want to be with you hell tell you that.. i was in a relationship for 2years,thought we were going to be together for ever, but i was wrong, someday you ll just wake up and realize that this is not what you want, i went through it believe me, it was not great, your 25 still young you have your whole live a head of you, but if you really love this guy like you say you do, i believe you, ask him how he feels about your relationship., if he cant answer it not worth it, but remember, only you know the real him, only you can make your own decision. hop you find the real answers. good luck
2006-10-18 07:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by levi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your feelings, in a way that's not too harsh to hurt him. He may be a little immature, if he can't realize he's not getting younger and needs to think about the future
2006-10-18 07:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by ^_^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it might be difficult but if you feel that he doesnt share your needs or doesnt need what you do , obviously man are different to women , take as much time as you need and maybe you should consider another man to share future with? - with joy and love - maybe i am lucky but my boyfriend tells me that he loves me countless times a day. i wish you all the best.
2006-10-18 07:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by marlenne n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might not feel the same way that you do about him. Either way, you really do need to know if he loves you. If your 100 percent sure that he loves you, then maybe he just hasnt thought about settling down yet...
2006-10-18 07:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by bruce s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he doesn't make you happy...find someone who will...
You said it yourself... You aren't getting any younger.
You are only 25 though ... You have like 20+ yrs of time to safely have children.
You should be fine.
2006-10-18 07:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by USMCstingray 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry honey...im 30 myself...if he's avoiding you...then he's still stuck in his early 20's ready to party hardy and won't be ready to settle down for about 10 more years!!
2006-10-18 07:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him fast. I get the impression that he gets all he wants from you without having to give an inch.
2006-10-18 07:58:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you he shouldn't find it hard to tell you.
2006-10-18 07:44:55 · answer #9 · answered by cocoshitnick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well let me tell ya date me and we will not have the problem joking whats up how is you day going
2006-10-18 07:46:39 · answer #10 · answered by maxxpro24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋