Guys: why do you bully girls?

Question

Ive been bullied by this guy for 6 years....so i would like a guy's point of view on why other guys bully

Im an average girl, of average appearance and intelligence....i get along with everyone and i dress in a sophisticated and non-sl*tty way....i have lots of friends...

I am now 19, and whenever i cross paths with him, he has to say something vulgar or has to pass a nasty remark

Thanks Mamma Mia and WikiJo....by the way wikijo, i do ignore him, but after 6 long years of ignoring....nothing has changed

Thanks Pandora the cat...but i dont think i would be able to ever praise what he says...he speaks in such a vulgar way that all i want to do is dig a hole and crawl into it...i always try to see the best in others but this boy has no good qualities about himself

Answer 1

Why someone else does something is of far less importance (none, actually) than our own response.

This sort of foul behavior begets its own punishment - the agitation & meaness which grow in this mental environment are as putrid as a bloated carcass by the side of the road in summer.

Someday this fellow will know enough to be ashamed; until then, I would ignore him as not worth your time. If he goes out of his way to find you, go out of your way to let him know that his actions will have legal consequences.

Good Luck!

;-)

Answer 2

He's one of those guys that feels inadequate with women so he needs to reduce then to a level he is more comfortable dealing with. His method is to insult, objectify, and condesced to you. It's his way of projecting his insecurities onto you, because he is intimidated by you. It's his way of coping, by trying to dominate you.

He is interested in you but his feeling scare him, and he perceives them to be a weakness. His fear of rejection is apparent in his method. "It''l get her before she gets me".

I would feel sorry for him. His instigating and your disgust is selfifulfilling for him. In order to get him to stop this, go out of your way to notice something good about him. "That was clever, but offensive. You have a way woth words. Don't talk to me unless it's to tell me that I'm fabulous." This gesture might show him some attention he needs while maintaining respect for yourself.

Whatever the case, you should stand up for yourself, and he will learn to respect you more.

Tell him the next time he says something gross that irritates you, you could say "I know that you meant that in the nicest, most charming way, but we're really going to have to work on your social skills". This should be a last resort to put him in check. It might emascualte him and further the problem, (but it would feel really good to say).

Hte fact is, he is just some big, dumb guy with insecurities and he just wants to be liked and noticed by you. If you like things about him, use the first appoach and befriend him. If he has no other redeeming qualities to you, then use the second approach to shut him down.

Answer 3

Possibly this boy grew up without a father figure. He wasn't taught how to respect women.

Answer 4

well, i never bully anybody. I just turned 21 and i was bullied when i was in middle school and i know how it feels, so i never bullly anybody. I treat everybody in a good way, unless they treat me bad.